Do ushers make wedding speeches?

An usher’s duties on the wedding day may include saying a few words

Keep it clean

Traditionally, the best man offers the first toast. He attracts the guests’ attention and toasts the newly weds. If you are acting as his stand-in, your toast should be simple and sincere. You may also decide -- like any best man -- to share a funny story about the groom with his guests. But be sure to keep it tasteful, since as a stand-in you may find that you have less leeway for poking fun at the groom than a very close friend (the original choice) would have had.

If you’re standing in for someone who's died -- such as the father of the bride -- never be afraid to mention him. In cases of bereavement, you’ll find that the guests expect you to refer to the person whose shoes you have been asked to fill on this special day. Many people will be missing him, and will be pleased that he gets a mention. It’s quite apt for you to say a few words about the kind of man he was and how he would feel if he were here today. NOT mentioning him, in fact, would probably be inappropriate.

However, it is not always appropriate to mention absent parents. If one parent is absent as a result of divorce or estrangement, for instance, it may be politic to pass over the subject in silence. Be sure check with the wedding party before you write your speech.

On your side

If you’re a long-distance friend or relative, kick off your speech by introducing yourself and explaining how it is that you know the bridal couple. Otherwise, you may find yourself addressing a sea of puzzled faces, who will spend the first half of your speech muttering, 'Who's that?' to themselves! Once they know you're standing in, however, they will automatically be on your side -- especially if you're a late replacement!