The Confetti East guide to the first year of marriage

Important tips on how to survive the crucial first twelve months...

• Power struggles: One of the most common tests in the first years of marriage is trying to convert the partner to do, think or feel the same as you do about everything, which naturally leads to disagreements. Avoid this power struggle by starting your marriage with the understanding that at times you’ll both agree to disagree. In situations where an agreement is a must for marital success, such as family or financial matters, agree to step away from your personal positions and come together to create a compromise that you both agree on.
• Time out: It is inevitable you will feel stuck in domestic routine at some point in your first year of marriage. When you see that happening, take time away from one another to do your own thing. Alternatively, take time out from your everyday routine to do an activity that you both enjoy. If you both loved going to the theatre or cinema as a couple before your marriage, plan a weekly treat that you both can look forward to.
• Forgive and forget: Those who cannot or won't forgive end up with a marriage that is filled with hurt and distrust, and spend most of their time consumed by resentment. Allow and forgive mistakes you are both likely to make, with the expectation of learning from the situation.

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