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Ask Kate: Best Woman speech?

August 8, 2012

Kate Thompson has been offering heart-felt advice and sparklingly different wedding inspiration for ten years. She is married with two children, and often features in the national press. With her warm and caring nature and off-beat sense of humour, she'll answer every question with knowledgable insight and understanding to help and inspire or simply restore your peace of mind.


I’m chief bridesmaid to my oldest school friend in June and am really looking forward to it.

The bride’s father will not be attending the wedding as he holds a lot of bitterness towards his children after they sided with their mother when she left him after many years.

The upshot of this is her brother is giving her away, but he is not looking forward to making his speech and the shorter it can be for him the better. With this in mind they have asked me to make a ‘best woman’ speech.

I’m fine about doing it but don’t know what I should say!


I think that the best place for it to go would be directly after the brother’s speech. The type of things that you should mention are what the father of the bride would usually cover.

Therefore the brother can do his more formal bit first, welcoming the groom to the family, commenting on how beautiful the bride looks etc. Then you could go with your stories and tales. Then either you or the brother should give a toast to the happy couple. This would then normally be followed by the groom, then bride (if she’s doing one?) and ends with the best man and a final toast.

Kate x

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