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Ask Kate: Honey Money

October 3, 2012

Kate Thompson has been offering heart-felt advice and sparklingly different wedding inspiration for ten years. She is married with two children, and often features in the national press. With her warm and caring nature and off-beat sense of humour, she'll answer every question with knowledgable insight and understanding to help and inspire or simply restore your peace of mind.


I would love some advice on how to ask guests for contributions towards our honeymoon instead of wedding gifts. We have everything we need, as have been together 10yrs, however as we are paying for most of it ourselves, have not had a holiday for past 2yrs. What we really need is a special honeymoon and time away. How do we go about doing this?


The honeymoon fund   – a financial contribution towards your honeymoon as an alternative gift list has become more fashionable  as most couples now live together before tying the knot and so have all the kitchen gadgets they could ever need.

For an organised honeymoon gift list you could try one of the following:

 I recommend you read the small print to each as they will take a fee. There’s nothing to stop you from opening your own account and simply asking your parents to let anyone who asks know that they can give to your joint account – call it your honeymoon account. Many couples do this and have a posting box or ‘wedding wishing well’ at the reception, for guests to post their cards and cheques into.

The simplest way to let your guests know that you would like money instead of gifts, is to include a line in your wedding invitations, such as this:

‘As we already have everything we need for our home, we will not be having a traditional gift list. Instead, if you would like to get us a gift, we would be grateful if you could make some contribution towards our honeymoon.’

Or you may prefer this little poem:

‘We know it’s not tradition
It’s not the way it’s done
But instead of a wedding list
We’d like a bit of sun

We’ve lived together quite a while
And all the bills are paid
We’ve got our plates, our pots and pans,
Our plans have all been made
We would appreciate your help though,
To send us on our way
A contribution to our honeymoon
In a land quite far away
But most importantly, we request,
You come to our wedding as our guest
To share with us our special day
And have some fun along the way!’

I hope you have a wonderful honeymoon and a long and happy marriage.

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