Emma's answers to Religious or civil?

Question

We've been discussing where to get married, and have a problem. My parents are Catholic, and his parents are Church of England. Both are religious and will be expecting a church wedding. I am an atheist, and do not want a church wedding, while my fiancé has not made it clear what type of ceremony he wants. I will be paying for the wedding almost entirely by myself and our parents are unable to contribute.

Answer

The most important thing to remember through all the planning is, don't lose sight of what the day is really about. This is a celebration of your love for each other.

As it is your day and you are paying for it, the decision should be made between the two of you, it's not a decision for your parents to make, though you should listen to what they would like for you and their reasons.

If you don't have religious beliefs, you should consider opting for a civil ceremony, or even a humanist ceremony. A humanist ceremony isn't legally binding, that is a very important fact to remember. So you'll need to have a civil ceremony first. The idea of a humanist ceremony is it can take place anywhere: your favourite beauty spot, the spot you met or even your front room! The ceremony will be based on your love and feelings for each other and how your love and commitment will grow together. You will be helped to explore your relationship and you will be shown how to reflect this in your special day.

Emma x