Emma's answers to Problem with guest list

Question

We have a problem with our guest list. An old friend of my parents will expect to be invited with her husband. Unfortunately, when my father died nine years ago, I fell out with the husband as he stole some items from my father's workshop (I found this out and confronted him - we haven't spoken since). I would like to invite the wife on her own but feel that this would cause a problem. I don't want to invite both of them as I don't want him at my wedding, and if we invite neither it will be awkward for my mother who has daily contact with them. What shall I do?

Answer

I think the first thing that you have to do is talk to your mum. Does she know about the disagreement you had with this gentleman? If not perhaps you should tell her - it could help her understand why you don't want him at your special day. Together with your mum you should decide what to do. But whatever happens please don't let it spoil your special day. This is going to be the best day of your life, and nothing will ruin it.

Talk it through, decide what to do that's best for you and your mum and then stick to it. If you decide not to invite them you can always explain that it's down to budget, but invite them along in the evening. By this point of the day you'll have so many people to talk to you'll hardly know they're there!

Emma x