Emma's answers to Wedding troubles

Question

I'd like to have a fairly small wedding with around 60 guests. I have a small family and am not going to invite parents friends etc. My fiance has a very large family. His mother and father have 15 siblings between them, all of whom are married with at least two children. In total there are about 70 people and my fiance thinks we should invite them all. How can we avoid upsetting anyone? Can we tell people that it's a small wedding so close family only - or is that rude?

Answer

It's really important for you to sit down together and sort this out without involving other peoples opinions.

From what you have told me you both have different ideas for your big day - you want a small wedding whilst your partner wants all of his family to be invited. Between you, you have to find a middle ground, something that will please you both. For example, you could have a small number to the church and then a big party in the evening.

If you decide that you will both be happy having a smaller wedding, it's totally acceptable to explain to friends and family that you have chosen to have a very small wedding. You could avoid upsetting anyone by organising an informal party after your honeymoon and inviting everyone to that instead.

Emma x