Emma's answers to Agreeing on a ceremony

Question

My fiancé and I are in disagreement about the ceremony. On our last visit to my family home in Cornwall we looked at a number of beautiful manor houses and any of these would be fine for the day. Upon my return, I have realised that I would really like to get married in my local chapel and have a reception at either a manor house or hotel on the coast. My fiancé has no problem with the reception but does not want to get married in church. I realise that if I back down then I will end up regretting it.

Answer

Whatever decision you both come to it has to be a joint decision that both of you are happy with it; otherwise it'll only end up hurting one of you. My first suggestion is that you go back to Cornwall and visit both the civil venues and the church.

Listen very carefully to what they have to say and ask any questions that you might have. Once you have all the information for both a civil and religious wedding talk again about what it is you both want. If you find that you still can't agree then it's time for compromising. One idea to consider is having a civil ceremony first followed by a blessing in the church and then reception at one of the venues? Have a look at the link below to find out more about blessings:
http://www.confetti.co.uk/weddings/advice_ideas/what_ceremony/blessing.asp

By ignoring the problem it won't go away, by communicating and compromising it could be solved!

Emma x