To be a man you must be swift as the coursing river, with all the force of a great typhoon, but to be a gentleman is little bit more difficult. On your wedding day your partner will expect you to be refined and proper. So come and enrol in Confetti’s School of Etiquette and learn how to be a gentleman.
1) Violence Free Zone
The first thing that you need to remember is that a gentleman is a gentle man. You should only use violence as a last resort … Just kidding! You should never resort to violence. And a gentleman would come armed with manners and apologies to keep himself and others out of danger. Don’t be ashamed to be the bigger man and just walk away, this isn’t being a coward; it’s being in control of your own emotions.
2) We’re All in This together
Everyone has different skills and abilities, as a gentleman you should happily offer help to those who want or need it. More importantly, when you do offer to lend a hand, be humble about it, nobody likes it if you rub it in their face. Likewise, don’t feel scared to ask for help if you need it, especially if you’re planning a wedding! Ask for all the help you can get for this.
3) Keep a Calm and Kind Mind
Well since you’re reading this, I’m going to assume that you’re in love, so you understand the idea of selflessness. Putting your partner’s needs before your own is a great start, but if you want to be a gentleman you have to step it up a level. Have the same kind of mindset for everyone else you meet, have empathy for everyone and think how you can help them.
But feel free to swipe the last spring roll; you’re not a saint.
4) Devils look Like Angels
A gentleman sees all people as equals and doesn’t formulate on opinions based on how someone looks. I mean, you are allowed to not like people, but judge them by their actions, not their looks. You can’t start having respect for others until you have self respect. So have some respect for yourself, put in that extra bit of effort to look good; you’ll feel great and your partner will be thrilled too.
5) Become the Articulate Mammal
I’m not going to sit here and preach to you, telling you not to swear, that’d be a tad hypocritical. Just bear in mind, there’s a time and a place for everything. Feel free to use it if you’re out with your friends drinking, but on the big day? I think you might want to clean up your language then. When it comes to wedding reception chit chat, ask people how they are, while it may be your day people love to talk about themselves. Also make a point to be honest about your partner, talk about how great they look and how much you love them, this is a day where you can tell everyone you see.
6) The Light of Your Life
Your partner is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, so be sure they know this every day. Do some little gentlemanly things to make sure they know how much you care. When you’re out together, try walking on the side of the path next to the road, this is a small thing that just shows that you’d like to keep them out of danger. If you’re walking with your partner and it starts to rain offer your coat, this may seem tired and corny, but it is a very easy way to show you care. No matter where you are, hold their hand, it’s the smallest thing, but holding hands is an amazing way to show everyone that you are in love.
Confetti’s Facebook admin, Tyler Goodyer has left his life of camping in the cold rain for a life filled with Prosecco, weddings and glitter beards. In his free time Tyler can be found in the pit at a concert, drinking cocktails (mostly strawberry daiquiris) in Manchester or snuggled up in a blanket watching Stranger Things on Netflix for the 3rd time that week.