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Written by Agnes Los Last updated: July 1, 2012
As your wedding date draws near you’ll probably toss around a few new names in your head. Mrs New-Name? Mrs Old-New-Name? Mrs New-Old-Name? No doubt you’re already comfortable and happy with being Miss Old-Name and you’ve toyed with keeping it, but practicality and tradition usually win in the name change debate. Still, don’t feel you must settle with tradition and practicality as we explain what your legal options are when changing names after marriage. The most straightforward and popular name change choice with modern brides is the traditional approach where a bride drops her maiden name and is only known by her husband’s surname. Other options with varying degrees of popularity are the double barrelled or hyphenated names, or retaining one’s maiden name.
Taking your husband’s name
Four in five UK brides will go on to change names, with most dropping their maiden name altogether. Not since the 70’s have brides been so overwhelmingly in support of traditional married names and there are a number of theories about this. The most popular is that in these days of decreasing nuptials, women who make it down the aisle have a stronger belief in marriage. Modern brides have grown up in the era of record divorces and shifting attitudes to marriage. Embracing the husband’s name reflects their stronger commitment and belief in family unity. Often brides who decide not to initially change names, perhaps due to their career or perceived effort to change names, will make the change with the arrival of children. Career woman Georgina Gilbert initially decided to retain her maiden name. Five years on her daughter was in childcare and she was constantly frustrated with her maiden name. ‘I was either called the wrong name, or if they knew my name they were curious of my relationship with my family’ says Gilbert. ‘Was I the mother or step mother? Was I a partner or wife? Changing names clearly placed me in the same family as my husband and daughter and ended the speculation.’
To take your husband’s name simply present your marriage certificate as evidence of your entitlement to be known by your husband’s name. Update photo ID first as other organisations may request to see updated photo ID in place of your marriage certificate. Set aside around 8 hours to make the change and undertake the research, or buy a personalised Confetti name change kit to save 6 hours off your name change efforts.
Keeping your maiden name
Keeping a maiden name either due to attachment or to make a statement still occurs, but is less popular than ever. Today’s bride typically only knows equality and is less likely to feel the need to make a statement by retaining her name, and society isn’t fussed or shocked by whatever surname a bride may use. If a bride doesn’t change names, it’s often just as likely due to the amount of effort perceived to be involved in making the change. For those who may put off changing names due to the paperwork, Confetti now makes this a thing of the past!
While fewer women retain their maiden name, there are strong reasons why some should keep their life long name. Women now more than ever a likely to be in a business that depends on their name. Journalists, academics and writers lose a link to their lifetime of work. Lawyers, entertainers and entrepreneurs have a brand in their name and a disconnect could be damaging for business and cause loss of referrals. The good news is that if you want to keep your maiden name, it requires zero effort and paperwork on your behalf.
Double-barrelled or hyphenated names
A double barrelled surname is where the wife adds the husband’s name to her own, and a hyphenated name is simply where a hyphen is placed between the two. Traditionally the husband’s name appears last but they can be arranged in any order. These names were popularized in the 70’s and 80’s when the name change debate and feminist movement was at its peak. It was once seen as the best of both worlds, but is increasingly seen as a compromise that benefits no one. The wife’s maiden name is not passed on, and the husband still has a different name (and is often annoyed when also referred to by the same double barrelled name). A generation ago as many as 20% of brides would go down this path, but in recent years only around 5% of brides take this option. If you want a double-barrelled or hyphenated name, simply present your marriage certificate to get government ID and records updated then notify any other necessary organisations.
Using both married and maiden names
For brides not ready to take on their husband’s name, or who have a reason to retain a link to their maiden name, an increasingly popular option is to use both names. She can use either her maiden name or married name wherever she chooses. Most commonly she will retain her maiden name at work – no need for new business cards, notifications to clients or changes to business records. In her personal life, she may be known by her husband’s name and have all her accounts and records updated accordingly. When a bride takes on her husband’s surname after marriage, it is known as an assumed name. She never gives up her right to be known by her prior name and can change her records back at any time, so it’s perfectly legal.
It’s the best of both worlds, but can be a lot more practical than double-barrelling. It’s always advisable to have all records consistently under the one name, particularly government and bank records.
Let Confetti take the hassle out of your new name
For women who want to change names after marriage, but delay it for months or years – time, effort and expense are the most frequently cited reasons. Often the problem with changing names is having to get on the phone and invest virtually an entire day to undertaking research, waiting on hold and writing letters. We put all that in the past with the personalised Confetti name change kits. On average a bride notifies 16 organisations of her new name and the research and paperwork takes 6 hours. Confetti’s name change program creates ready-to-send name change letters and faxes in your name. If any organisations have a special form we also include it. Where possible, we provide notifications that are ready for you to sign and send. To get a head start with your name change paperwork or to find out more visit namechange.confetti.co.uk.
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