How to Beat Wedding Day Nerves

Written by    Last updated: April 13, 2014

So the big day has arrived, and before you’ve even started to get ready the nerves have kicked in. Your wedding party tell you they’ll have gone when you’re ready to go, but this doesn’t seem to be the case. In fact, they seem worse now you’re ready to go to the ceremony. …But you aren’t the first person to feel like this, and certainly won’t be the last. So fear not. Here we have some tips on how to beat the wedding day nerves.

Bride Smiling, Bridal Gown and Bouquet

Bridal Gown and Train Above, Rebecca and Peter’s Perfect November Wedding

Stay with family and friends

The night before your wedding, stay with family and friends. They are the closest people to you (besides your future spouse) and know how to keep you calm, relax you, and make you laugh. They are the people who will support and protect you, and will continue to do so throughout your marriage.

Bride with her BridesmaidAbove, Lisa and Ben’s Colourful Beach Real Wedding

Delegate to trusted people

There’s a lot to do on your big day, so don’t try to do it all yourself. The more you have on your plate the more wedding day nerves you’ll have. The night before and the big day is no time for you to fret about little wedding day planning issues. By this time you should be free from them all, and should have them passed on to trusted people. So delegate to bridesmaids, groomsmen, or trusted family members to take care of any last minute hiccups. This way, you can avoid unnecessary drama.

Bride with Bridesmaid Pre-ceremony Above, Sarah and Simon’s Ivory and Gold Real Wedding


The night before your wedding day you should aim to be relaxed. Invite friends over and have one or two drinks. This will ensure everyone is in a relaxed mood, devoid of stress, and it might rub off on you too. Why not indulge in some pre-wedding pampering? Go to a spa, get a massage, spend some time in a jacuzzi with friends. Really let your hair down.

Bride with Family and Friends and BridesmaidsAbove, Rebecca and Peter’s Perfect November Wedding

Remember why you’re getting married

When the big day arrives and the nerves really start to kick in, remind yourself why you’re getting married. You’re getting married because you love and trust the person you’re with. You are happy, contented and safe with them, and you want to spend the rest of your life with them. This will help you forget all those nerves and get a little excited about what the day and the future holds for you.

Bride and Groom Sunset KissAbove, Claire and Lloyd’s Vintage Wedding

What calms you down?

Think of what calms you down and keeps you happy. Is it yoga? Do you mediate? Is it listening to a certain album or doing certain things. Now ask yourself can you fit this in on your big day? Could you do yoga for 30 mins in the morning, or meditate for 15 minutes? Or could you find somewhere quiet to relax for half an hour? If you find anxiety still starts to kick in, even after you’ve tried these, concentrate on your breathing. Take deep, slow breaths.

Relaxing Tuskan Villa Swimming PoolAbove, Amy and Charles’ Real Wedding in Italy

But remember, these tips when it comes to your big day, and implement them. Not everyone is the same, so tailor your nerve calming routines to your own special needs.

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