Writing your wedding gift list can sometimes be confusing, due largely to the fact that wedding gift lists are a relatively new thing. You may have many questions when thinking about your wedding gift list, from “What is the proper wedding gift list etiquette?” to “How should I word the actual list?” So we’ve prepared some information on wedding gift list wording to help you on your way.
Maybe you aren’t sure of using a gift list because you don’t want your guests to feel obliged to buy you a gift? Don’t fear—everyone knows you’re getting married out of love for one another and not to get gifts. So in this instance it’s important you choose your wording carefully so guests don’t feel they have to buy a gift. “It’s your presence, not your present that we want!” Is a great phrase to offset this feeling. Remember, most people will want to get you a present anyway. The gift list is just to guide them so you don’t end up with 10 toasters and 6 kettles.
Should I send my gift lists with the wedding invitations?
Many couples wonder if they should send gift lists along with their wedding invitations. When gift lists started, it was deemed bad etiquette to include it in your wedding invitation. But as they have become more common, it seems including them in with your invitation is more widely acceptable. This is seen as saving your guests time and effort of having to contact the wedding party to find out which gifts are needed or what would be suitable for you. It also takes a bit of stress off the guest—they won’t have to think about what to get you, and if they are getting the right thing.
Is it okay to ask for money?
Asking for money can seem a bit daunting—like you’re begging for charity. The truth is, this has become much more common, particularly as many couples live together before getting married. Couples living together may already have everything they need at home, so buying them household gifts will be wasted money. Not to mention it will cause them unnecessary problems when trying to think of what to do with them.
Here are some suggestions for wording wedding gift lists that you may want to use:
As we already have a lot of household items, we hope you won’t mind us asking for money instead of traditional wedding gifts. We’re planning to spend the money on…
To celebrate our wedding we’re going on a once-in-a-lifetime honeymoon which will give us memories we will always remember. We’ve included a honeymoon gift list showing some of the trips we’ve planned so you can see how we plan to use your kind wedding gift, should you choose to give one.
Please don’t feel obliged to give us a gift—all we want is to have a lovely wedding that we can share with you all.
These are just a few examples of how you can word your wedding gift list. With them you can say whatever it is you want to say without it coming out all wrong! Once you’ve written it you may want to run it by a friend, relative or work colleague to see how it sounds to them before sending it.
*Why not take a look at the various services who specialise in gift lists