Sabina and Saleem June 1999 - How did you meet? We met in the Summer of 1996, when she was over here on a holiday, she came back and we…
Written by Paula Jones Last updated: January 17, 2007
We meet at school in year 7, so when we were 11. We knew of each other, but hung around with different groups of friends. We became good friends in 6th form and started dating after going on a school music tour to Prague.
We were both 19 when we married.
Ashley proposed to me on a day trip to Canterbury in August 2005. We were having lunch in a beautiful park and he had hidden the ring in my dessert. He then got down on one knee and asked me to marry him.
I had two hen nights, one for all my uni friends at a Chinese restaurant and one put on by my Maid of Honour which was at Jail House Rock. Ashley went to Amsterdam for his stag do.
Yes, as we were at uni in Canterbury and our parents were at home in London we had to do lots of the wedding plans ourselves. Ashley helped a lot although he did leave most of the decisions to me and just said if he really didn’t like the idea.
Yes, I did. I used it as a guide to tell me what I needed to do and it gave me so many ideas of how to do the day, the invites, the decorations, flowers, etc.
Yes, we bought cameras for the tables, flower petals and some gifts.
My outfit was a Romantica dress. It was ivory with lots of beaded detailing on the front and back. It had chiffon overlay and a full length veil.
I had five bridesmaids and three pageboys. They were my three sisters, Ashley’s sister, my best friend, my twin brothers and Ashley’s little brother. The four eldest bridesmaids wore a dusty pink full length skirt and corset top, bought in Debenhams, the little bridesmaid wore and ivory dress with detailing at the top and a big rose on the waist band. The eldest page boy wore the same as the groom and the little pageboys wore a gold and ivory waistcoat with cravat, white shirt and black trousers.
Ashley chose his best friend from school to be his best man, who was dating my best friend who was a bridesmaid. For his ushers he had my brother and some friends from our different churches.
Religious ceremony and my dad married us as he’s a pastor.
Broadmead Baptist Church, Woodford Green.
In the church hall.
Yes, we had a black and white Daimler.
We had 300 people to the wedding, followed by a cake buffet and 90 people to the reception which included close family and friends.
Yes, the theme was pink, ivory and gold.
Yes, the cloths were ivory and pink. There were pink flowers on all the tables and each guest had a gold party popper. They each had their own candle holder which had their name painted on it and the names were in pink and gold.
Yes, each guest’s napkin was rolled up in a candy necklace. The children also had party bags to keep them occupied during the speeches.
For my flowers I had roses and carnations with foliage, and the bridesmaids had the same. The groom, best man and ushers had roses. The church flowers were lilies, roses, carnations and foliage and the reception flowers were the same. All the flowers were pinks and ivories. Our mothers also had matching corsages.
We got our food from Waitrose entertaining and friends offered to do the waiter and waitressing. It started with fruit balls, then there was a selection of cold meats and salmon and lovely salads and warm new potatoes and for desert there was lemon tarte with red berries, profiteroles and strawberries and cream with coffee and mints to finish.
We got our wedding cake from Marks and Spencer and the florist put roses it for us. It was on a swan shaped cake holder.
Yes, we had a close friend play the piano for us for our first dance and another friend do some DJing for the rest of the evening.
We had a small gift list with Debenhams, but asked mainly for money to buy larger items.
We spent our wedding night in a hotel in Crawley, “The George Hotel”, which was lovely before flying to Turkey, Alyana for two weeks which was amazing.
Having my dad marry us was very special, going for a ride in the beautiful car with Ashley was lovely, just for a time to say hello properly. Walking out of the church as man and wife. Seeing all my bridesmaids dressed up…they looked like real bridesmaids! Having our photos taken and the speeches were excellent. Our first dance was very special and then driving off to start our new life together.
The only thing I can think of is my sister broke her arm a week or two before the wedding, but the photographer hid it very well in the photos.
I wouldn’t have done a thing differently… it was perfect! My advice would be, although you want to do everything yourself allow others to help otherwise you won’t enjoy the planning. Let the experts have their say, they are after all the experts. Make sure you say goodbye to your parents before you go off on your honeymoon and ring them to let them know you got there. Enjoy your day and tell your husband he looks great and you love him.