Sabina and Saleem June 1999 - How did you meet? We met in the Summer of 1996, when she was over here on a holiday, she came back and we…
Written by Paula Jones Last updated: August 9, 2006
photography by Martin Crombie
At cricket! My ex played for Ian’s cricket team. We got to know each other well while he was consoling me after our split. Ian also booked a holiday for me in Tenerife and I think he was impressed with a girl who was independent enough to go on holiday alone!
He proposed on 3 May 2004 while we were on holiday in Cyprus. We went to Aphrodite’s Rock, where he said (standing up) ‘will you do me a favour… (I thought he was going to ask me to wash his shorts when we got back!!!)… will you be my wife?’ He STILL has never been on bended knee! We bought my beautiful diamond solitaire ring the next day in Protaris.
We had fairly quiet ‘do’s’ as Ian’s brother and his new wife had done the whole big stag/hen thing only a couple of months earlier. I had a raucous night out with the girls in Bolton (meal at a Greek restaurant, then dancing later). Ian went to Bellvue dog track in Manchester and then onto a casino.
Ian did a lot of the planning. He organised most of the venue details, booked the disco and casino, organised the men’s outfits and was generally very involved. We are both perfectionists so we had a lot of ‘discussions’ about everything!
I used the confetti site mainly for the message boards and to look for ideas for table settings, dresses etc.
No, we didn’t have time to set one up. We only decided on the date in September and actually got married in December.
I bought my table cameras from confetti. They were white with silver stars.
I went everywhere looking for a dress I could buy off the peg as we were short on time and I found my dress in a local shop. Fortunately, it was well within budget and fitted perfectly. It was ivory, strapless, lightly beaded and had an asymmetrical swathe across the front. We had a civil ceremony so I didn’t want a train or veil – I had a beautiful silver tiara and silver shoes to match the men’s waistcoats. Ian bought my diamond earrings as a wedding present.
My sister in law, Chantelle, was my bridesmaid and Ian’s two daughters, Dominique and Jasmine, were flowergirls. Chantelle wore a stunning black halterneck designer number from Selfridges in Manchester, while the two younger girls wore ivory beaded Jasper Conran dresses and matching cardigans. We all wore silver shoes!
Ian’s brother Paul was the best man, while my brother Stephen was the usher. Ian’s son Joshua was a page boy. All the men wore black suits with silver waistcoats and had matching cufflinks.
A civil ceremony – I was surprised at the amount of input we had into the ceremony, the registrar let us chose almost every part except the legal bit!
At Borwick Hall in Borwick near Carnforth. It’s a Tudor mansion that is normally used as an outdoor education centre. They have just started to hold weddings there.
At Borwick, as above.
No – Ian used his Mercedes with a ribbon on it for the male party, while I got ready at Borwick and only had to walk about 100 yards from the Gatehouse to the Baronial Hall.
We had 60 during the day and 90 at night. We had to have an evening guest list as the hall where we got married only holds 60 people. We were pleased that so many people came, with it being the weekend before Christmas and 50 miles away from where most of our friends and family live.
Not really, obviously the Christmas theme was very apparent, so we followed this through in the colours of the flowers and table settings. The main colour theme was deep red and silver.
Lots of candles and red ‘Grand Prix’ roses made for a very ‘Christmassy’ atmosphere.
We had christmas crackers instead of favours.
The bouquets were made by Dalton Square florists in Lancaster, who were superb. I insisted on having red ‘Grand Prix’ roses in everything! There were also red tulips and hypericum berries in my bouquet, the top table decoration and the men’s buttonholes. I made the table flowers with the help of Chantelle and my Mum using glass vases, glass pebbles and red roses.
We had a lot of choice on the menu – three starters (melon, prawns and soup), three main courses (turkey, beef and salmon) and three puddings (meringue, chocolate torte and christmas pudding). We also had a cheese course as I don’t really have a sweet tooth. The venue did the catering and it was delicious – all home made using local produce.
I had a two tier fruit wedding cake made by a friend from work as my wedding present from her.
We had quite a lot going on – first the wedding, then a drinks reception in the library (some guests accidentally ‘found’ the liquers that were meant for after the meal and had great fun drinking them all!) then the meal and speeches. After the meal, we had a casino and later an auction of casino prizes in aid of the Motor Neurone Disease society. We also had a disco and and one or two friends did karaoke (much to my horror!) later on in the evening.
Our gift list was held at Debenhams.
We spent the first and second nights in the Gatehouse at Borwick. On the Monday we went to Keswick in the Lake District and stayed at the Derwentwater Hotel for two nights. Then we came home and it was Christmas and New Year! We will have an overseas honeymoon later in the year, probably a cruise in the Caribbean.
There were lots – Ian sent me a wedding present of beautiful diamond earrings to wear, seeing his face as I walked up the aisle and during the service, his speech after the meal which made people cry… and on and on!
I would book a honeymoon in the sun well in advance of the wedding! With our work commitments we may now have to wait quite a while. My best advice is to try not to obsess about the small details. Some of the things you think you MUST have turn out to be minor on the day. I really wanted a harpist and we found one who was fantastic, but I was so nervous and busy on the day I can’t remember hearing a note she played!