Sabina and Saleem June 1999 - How did you meet? We met in the Summer of 1996, when she was over here on a holiday, she came back and we…
Written by Paula Jones Last updated: May 22, 2007
In the skittle alley at the Crwys pub, at university in Cardiff, on a Student Scout and Guide Society night out in October 2000. James was a young fresher and I was a know-it-all second year. We walked home the same way via the fish and chip shop. James offered me a bite of his sausage, but I refused saying I was a vegetarian! We got together a week later on Freshers’ Camp, after being covered in whipped cream!
I am 27 and James is 25.
I gave James a deadline! After a year back at uni doing an MSc, James returned in September 2005 to Croydon, where he was from and I had moved two years previously. We moved in together but I said that he had until the end of the year to propose or move out. He waited until December 30th! Having had a romantic proposal on the London Eye planned, James actually proposed on a snowy walk on Toys’ Hill, near my favourite Bat Tower (I like bats). We went on the Eye in the evening to celebrate and then to the pub to tell everyone.
James went to North Wales with 25 mates for white water rafting and quad biking and stayed in a bunk house above a pub. I went to Momma Cherri’s Soul Food Shack in Brighton for lunch and fun on the pier on the Saturday followed by a Pizza and DVD night and on the Sunday we went to the Madjeski Stadium to have corporate lunch and watch Guinness Premiership Rugby: Worcester Warriors (my team) lost to London Irish.
He had set ideas about some things and together we set priorities to spend money on, like a photographer and a good band. He gave his opinion when asked and was very supportive when I started losing it.
Yes. I used it for dress ideas, reception ideas and the forum has made me laugh, shout and cry! I loved it for being able to ask random questions and get great replies. I also met my cake maker on Confetti.
No, but I did go to the London store several times looking.
It was an Ella, by Essence of Australia strapless dress in off-white. I tried on dresses when we first got engaged, then I lost three stone and set aside a day to shop. I found it in All That Glitters in Croydon on an Essence designer day with 10% off! I wore tiara and necklace from ebay to match our celtic theme, and my veil was my something borrowed from my best friend and bridesmaid. It went perfectly.
Yes. I had five! My sister and my best mate kept me sane, organised my hen do, and were generally wonderful. They wore dark blue full length gowns from Berketex. My husband’s cousins were also bridesmaids and wore ivory dresses that my mum made with a ribbon in their family tartan round the middle. Finally there was my second cousin. I was her mum’s bridesmaid, her mum was my mum’s bridesmaid, and my mum was her mum’s bridesmaid! Mum also made her dress in dark blue.
He has a twin brother so he was the natural best man choice. They both wore charcoal grey Prince Edward jackets, with pale waistcoats, and silk cravats in their family tartan hired from Pantiles Groom in Tunbridge Wells. There were five other ushers, all male friends, in their own suits with a button hole.
Emmanuel Church, South Croydon. We are both Christians and it is the church we go to, as well as being our parish church. Lots of people from the congregation came and the worship band was made up of our friends. It was so much fun and lots of people commented on the service.
The Warren, Metropolitan Police Sports Club, Hayes, Kent.
We hired a ‘Morse’ car. A Daimler in dark blue.
120 and about 40 more in the evening.
We tied together my Irish roots and James’ Scottish heritage with celtic knots and the colours of James’ family tartan which was dark blue, cream, green and yellow.
We had blue and yellow violets in white pots. We used a Celtic knot stamp on each place card and the menus were decorated with the same stamp. We scattered gold and blue hearts and had blue napkins. Mum also made papier mache bowls from tissue paper with celtic knots on, in which we put gold, white and blue sweets. My bridesmaid hand painted out table plan with celtic art work.
No, they had bowls of sweets to nibble on.
All the bouquets were smaller versions of mine. We had yellow and cream roses, thistles (for the colour and the theme,) Rosemary and lisanthas. The men had cream roses for their button holes and additionally James had a thistle. My florist was Karolyn Angiolini from Downe in Kent. We had home grown table decorations.
The venue handled it all. We had soup, roast beef and lemon tarte. We served our cake, along with cheese and biscuits instead of an evening buffet.
Our cake was made by a Confetti girl! It’s a long story. We had three layers: fruit, vanilla sponge, and carrot cake. It was iced in ivory, with sugar ivy and cream roses and a celtic heart topper. Our names and our wedding date were on the side in celtic script. The joins were covered by thin tartan ribbon. It was amazing, and so yummy.
We had a live band in the evening playing covers from the sixties to the present day. They were called The GnT experiment and I found them online.
Yes, with Wrapit.
We spent a disappointing first night in a hotel and then on the Monday we flew to Malta for a week. We booked it independently. Flight through Opodo, and the apartment direct with the owner via the internet. We also hired a car through holiday autos.
The doors of chuch opening and seeing so many people there, and walking down the aisle to meet James.
Sadly my granddad died five weeks before the wedding, which was tough. Dad wore a tie in his regimental tartan and I wore my Gran’s engagement ring on my right hand. Other than that everything went smoothly, helped by my sister and bridesmaid who is an event organiser by trade!
No. I loved it all. My only advice would be don’t sweat the small stuff, set your priorities, stick to them and smile. Oh, and everyone tells you how fast it goes, and it really does!