Sabina and Saleem June 1999 - How did you meet? We met in the Summer of 1996, when she was over here on a holiday, she came back and we…
Written by Paula Jones Last updated: August 11, 2006
We met when I was 15. Dale lived two doors away from my school and my friends and I used to sneak out at dinner time to his house.
We were lying in bed on the 1st October 2003. I was about to get up to get ready for an interview that morning. We were talking about marriage as it was my dad and step-mum’s wedding anniversary. He asked me what I would say if he asked me to marry him, I said I would say yes. I found out afterwards that he was just testing the water as he had planned to propose to me on New Years Eve in Dublin but I was too excited and told everyone that day!
I went to Newcastle with my mum, stepmums, auntie, sister in law and six of my closest friends. We stayed in a luxury four-star hotel and went to a comedy club on the Friday night, where we got thrown out for laughing too much.
On the Saturday we were booked in for facials, manicures and massages, so we spent the day between them, our rooms and the swimming pool sauna and spa. On Saturday night we went out for dinner and then headed into Newcastle town. We did a bit of a pub crawl then went onto the a nightclub. We went back to the hotel about 12.30 and sat in the bar till 4, talking and reminiscing over our younger days.
Dale had a night out in Doncaster with all his friends. They took him to a lap dancing club and made him get on stage with two of the lap dancers!!
He didn’t!! Dale left everything to me apart from the suits. He did help me fold the place name cards one night about a week before the wedding. I asked his opinion on everything though and he would certainly have told me if he hadn’t have approved of my choices.
I used the confetti shop for most of my table decorations, and also was on the forums day and night swopping ideas and generally chatting to the other brides to be.
Yes, although I didn’t really put a lot of information on it except my table plan.
I bought most of my table decorations online.
My dress was Maggie Sottero ‘Calypso New York’. I bought it in the third shop I visited on my first wedding dress shopping trip. I had tried on a lot of other dresses that day but as soon as I tried that on and walked out, my mum and stepmum burst into tears. I knew it was the one and they confirmed it.
I had five adult bridesmaids and three children. The adults were my three best friends from childhood and two friends that I had met in 1997 whilst working in Tenerife. They live three hours away from me but we’ve never lost touch since we came home.
They all wore a plum-coloured dress with a bodice top and A-line skirt, and silver shoes. The children were my daughter and two nieces. They wore lilac dresses and ivory shoes.
Dale had his two best friends as best men, and his nephew and my 11 year old brother as ushers. They all wore suits and lilac waistcoats.
We had a church wedding.
We married at St Stephens Church in Newport. The vicar was excellent he really put us at ease and was really funny throughout the ceremony.
I walked down the aisle to Shania Twain ‘From this moment on’. I had rehearsed this moment for so long and had asked the vicar for the song to be faded out as I got to the end of the aisle. Unfortunately the verger didn’t know about fading and the song stopped suddenly making everyone laugh. Including me. I’ve never seen anyone look so nervous as Dale when he turned to face me but he soon calmed down and started pulling faces at me as I said my vows, making me giggle. We both giggled throughout the rest of the ceremony and all the nerves had gone.
We had our reception at Cave Castle Hotel. The room was perfect and the weather held off so we could have our photos taken in the grounds. Debbie, our wedding coordinator, was excellent and I couldn’t have asked for a better day.
I arrived in a silver blue (looked lilac) Ford Beauford. Unfortunately it was raining so we couldn’t have the roof down, but the driver was lovely and really put dad and I at ease on the way to the church.
We had 60 family and close friends at the church and wedding reception, and about 100 guests for the evening. We had a sit down three course meal during the afternoon and a buffet on the evening.
The colour theme was cream, purple and silver. I wanted a non-fussy look with all the table decorations and flowers.
We had silver and purple stones on the tables and the place cards were cream with purple flowers with a silver stone in the middle.
We gave our guests a guest scroll with a poem from us printed on it with our names and the date of the wedding. Wrapped inside these were lottery tickets for that nights draw. I don’t think anyone won though!
I had a modern bouquet with Calla lilies. The bridesmaids had cream gerberas with purple freesia that hung over their arm, apart from our daughter Ellis who had a basket with the same flowers.
Janet, the florist, is a friend and did an excellent job. The table flowers were perfect – I had imagined what they would be like but they were ten times better than I could have hoped for. We just had a long vase with one lily and Janet added freesia and a folded green leaf to match the buttonholes.
The food was done by Cave Castle. We started with tomato and basil soup which was absolutely delicious but I was worried about it ending up on my dress! For our main course we had chicken breast in a smoky bacon and Dijon mustard sauce with vegetables, and for dessert we had profiteroles. By that point in the day I really wasn’t hungry but the guests have all given good reports of it.
Our wedding cake was a three-tier stacked chocolate orange cake, made with Belgian chocolate. The bottom and top tier were ivory and the middle tier was lilac. All the icing was chocolate as well. It was the best cake I have ever tasted.
We had a DJ in the evening. He played all our favourites from the 70′s, 80′s and 90′s along with up to date party music. The dance floor was full for most of the night.
As we had lived together for two years we had our gift list as donations towards our honeymoon. Guests either paid it into the travel agent or gave us cash on the day.
We spent our first night in the Bridal suite at Cave Castle and then left for Kenya on the Sunday afternoon..
My most memorable moment of the day was standing at the top of the church waiting to walk down the aisle. I could see Dale standing there but he had been told he wasn’t allowed to turn round. Everyone was looking at me and smiling and my dad was holding my arm. I have never been happier than at that moment.
My only advice is enjoy the day and don’t worry about everyone else. I spent a lot of time running round talking to people as I felt I should be with everyone who had taken the time to come. The only thing I would do do differently is relax a bit more and take more of the day in. I only intend to do it once!