Sabina and Saleem June 1999 - How did you meet? We met in the Summer of 1996, when she was over here on a holiday, she came back and we…
Written by Paula Jones Last updated: August 9, 2006
We dated eight years ago when I was introduced to him by his cousin (who I worked with). Malc was gorgeous and every girl fancied him, but unfortunately I had eyes for someone so else so it didn’t work out. We remained friends throughout the seven years that I was engaged to someone else. In September 2003 I hadn’t seen Malc for seven months and missed him terribly. I was working in a bar as I had split up with my ex, Malc came in to drown his sorrows as he had just split up from his girlfriend and our eyes met once again across a smokey bar! The rest, as they say, is history!
Malc had been plotting behind my back for three months. As we got together he designed a ring for me as he says he knew straight away that he wanted me as his wife. We always went out on a Friday night for a meal, so this particular Friday was no different except Malc was unusually fidgety and quiet. I thought he was there to break up with me and so we ended up having an argument! After the meal Malc asked if we could go for a drive to talk, I thought ‘Oh great here it comes, I can’t believe he is splitting up with me’. We got to a gorgeous lake about 11.30pm and sat and watched the ducks and stars. At midnight I said I was cold and wanted to go home, at this point I was really stropy. Malc then turned to me and told me how much he loved me and out of the blue asked me to be his wife! OH WOW! I was so shocked as this boy I had known for eight years had always said he would NEVER get married…but he had just asked me!! I burst into tears with joy and I suppose with relief that I hadn’t been dumped! I was going to marry my best friend.
Both Malc and myself had our stag/hen do’s on the same night a week before the wedding. Malc went to the dogs with all his friends and my dad. They had a great time – surprisingly a lot tamer than my hen night – although somehow his trousers were split and they lost his belt… I don’t think I want to know! He came back with more money than he left with! I had a fantastic night in our local town. My sister had organised all my friends to turn up wearing something pink and had hired the VIP lounge. I was so drunk and so pleased to have all my closest girl friends there. I couldn’t have asked for a better night.. we had a ball…but all details of the night are a secret!
Malc was very sweet with the wedding planning and left most of the organising to me. He did have the final say over the big bookings like the church, reception, hymns and men’s suits! The rest he said I could choose as it is a girls dream day!
I used confetti for presents, table decorations, favours, bikini and most of all the chat room! I made some lovely friends and got some really helpful advice both wedding and non-wedding related.
My dress was a deep ivory colour. It was called Relieve and is by Pronovias. It is such a different style that everyone commented on it. The main part of the dress was an organza coat that had a raindrop effect of beads and diamontes falling down the entire coat. The coat followed the lines of the dress and fastened at the front. I sparkled all day!
I had two bridesmaids and two flower girls. The two flower girls wore ivory dresses with a lilac sash and lilac butterflies sewn on the skirt. The bridesmaids wore a two-piece outfit from Jim Hjelm. These were in lilac with an organza overlay. The two eldest girls had miniature versions of my tiara and the two younger ones had little loveheart wands. The two flower girls and one of the bridesmaids are my nieces and the other bridesmaid is Malc’s cousin.
Malc chose his best friend Neil to be best man and he chose my brother in law and his friend James to be ushers. They all wore black frock coats with pinstripe trousers, with silver detailed waistcoat. They wore high collared shirts with lilac cravats.
We had a religious ceremony and I loved it! I remember every second and it will stay with me for the rest of my life. All our guests said it was very intense and romantic.
The ceremony was held in my local church, St James Church in Tunbridge Wells, Kent. It is a large beautiful old sandstone church.
The reception was held at the Ramada Jarvis Hotel in Tunbridge Wells.
I went to the church and to the reception in a horse and carriage and my parents arrived in a Ferrari 612 Scaglietti.
We had 60 guests to the wedding breakfast and the ceremony, and over 200 guests for the evening.
The colour for the wedding was white and lilac. The theme was feathers and butterflies and surprisingly I managed to get it looking romantic and not tacky.
I made the favours myself – they were white boxes tied with lilac ribbon. On top of the boxes I had stuck a little lilac butterfly (from confetti) and one feather (also from confetti). There was lilac butterfly confetti strewn over the tables with two lilac candles and four tea light candles with a Cala lilly in the centre.
The favours were two chocolate truffles.
I carried a bunch of Cala lillies tied with a lilac ribbon and my bridesmaids carried smaller versions. The tables each had one lilly in a vase with lilac sand.
We had a traditional three tier cake with two fruit tiers and one sponge. My godmother made it for us.
In the evening we had a disco and he was absolutely fantastic.
We had a gift list with Next. We asked for vouchers as we couldn’t decide what we wanted!
The first night of our married life was spent at the Ramada Jarvis but we then flew off to the Maldives for ten days.
The bit I remember most is saying our vows as Malc rubbed my hand all the way through and helped me calm down when I nearly cried.
I had too many nightmare moments to mention. But on the wedding day you don’t care!
I wouldn’t do one thing differently. If I give any advice to brides it would be, it is your wedding at do as you please. And just enjoy it! The day goes so fast so stop every now and then and just watch your guests enjoying themselves and at all the work you have done. Well done you!