Sabina and Saleem June 1999 - How did you meet? We met in the Summer of 1996, when she was over here on a holiday, she came back and we…
Written by Paula Jones Last updated: September 21, 2006
We met on a girl’s night out – I’d just split from my ex-hubby and wasn’t looking for a new romance. We met in the Chicago Rock Cafe Bar in Bolton, were both tipsy and I just remember him stopping me and kissing me! The flirt!
I am 40 and he is 43.
He proposed in his local pub (a dive actually), after (another) tipsy night out – we’d just sung a Karaoke duet and he got down on one knee in front of the whole pub. This was about 3 months after we met in July 2003.
Kev didn’t – he stayed at home and babysat whilst I went out with 5 mates for a Chinese banquet and had an absolute ball!
He let me organise most things, but got involved with the registrar, photographer, flowers and choosing the rings and vows. He was very supportive.
I got lots of ideas from the website and used the countdown calendar a lot.
We bought personalised wine glasses and tankards and a CD on-line.
I wore an elegant ivory satin dress quite plain but with shimmery beads and diamante on the boned bodice and front panel of the skirt, it also had a detachable halter-neck strap. I loved it because it was beautiful and was a bargain – I bought it in the first shop I went to when I was just window-shopping with my mum, ‘Because I Love You’ in Farnworth, Bolton. I tried it on and mum cried so that was that. I didn’t know about the bargain price until I’d decided to buy it. I also got my crystal tiara from the same shop and I wore an ivory faux fur bolero from the Dorothy Perkins website and my real treat were my silk shoes with diamante from Faith – stunning but so high!
I had two bridesmaids and a flower-girl. My bridesmaids were my daughter, Jemma and Kev’s youngest daughter Kathleen (Kat). They wore strapless scarlet satin dresses and ivory faux-fur short coats and diamante tiaras with silver mules. My flower-girl was Kev’s 3 year old granddaughter who wore an ivory dress, with faux-fur cape and a red rosebud hand band.
Kev chose his best mate Alan and his son Christopher as joint best men. They all (plus the two dads) wore dark lounge suits, white shirts with scarlet satin ties and pocket handkerchiefs to match the bridesmaids.
A civil ceremony as we’d both been married before!
Whitehall Hotel, Darwen – perfect for both! I would recommend it to anyone living close enough.
Whitehall Hotel, Darwen. Everybody there couldn’t do enough for us – it made a wonderful day perfect!
No, I stayed in the hotel the night before so didn’t need anything. The night before was a blast too!
We had 60 people for the main event and another 50 at night. It was wonderful seeing so many people together who’d made an effort to share our day with us!
My husband is a MASSIVE Glasgow Rangers FC fan so I chose red, white, blue and silver for the colour-scheme.
I managed to get hold of a load of Rangers dress tartan material and ribbon so I used the material as runners down the centre of the tables which all had white cloths on. The room itself already had a blue theme so it went perfectly together. I also used silver material leaves and favours to lift the whole thing.
Yes, little silver bags with silver chocolates in them – quite cute really!
I had a hand-tied bouquet of red roses, blue thistles, cream and red berries tied with the tartan ribbon. The bridesmaids had smaller versions of mine. Chloe held a basket with the same flowers and berries in it. The top table decoration was a long flat display incorporating the same (this was used on the ceremony table first). The other table flowers were a long single red rose thistle and berry arrangement in tall thin vases with the ribbon tied around the vases. It was very simple and unusual but very beautiful! All the buttonholes incorporated the same rose and thistle scheme. I was so impressed with ALL the flowers. My florist was Hodkinsons of Darwen.
We used the ‘award winning chef’ at the venue for the wonderfully delicious food. They served canapés with the mulled wine reception, then for the wedding breakfast we had duck and pepper terrine with plum sauce, roast beef, Yorkshire pudding and all the trimmings, followed by sticky toffee pudding with scented brandy cream. We had a choice of wine with each course, a choice of liqueurs with the coffee and petit fours and Champagne with the cake and speeches!
I chose a 3-tiered fruit cake – heart-shaped in ivory icing with red, white and blue flowers on each tier, with a silver “E” shaped stand. It was made by Celebration Cakes by Bill Fleck of Darwen. It was stunning!
We burned a CD of our favourite love songs which was played along with the Confetti CD during the day and had the resident DJ at night. The music for both was complemented by everyone!
No we had lived together for 2 and a half years and had most things so asked people for ‘Bank of England Vouchers!’
In the bridal suite of the Whitehall hotel – it had a four-poster bed and jacuzzi – very swish! We went to Secrets Excellents resort in Dominican Republic for our honeymoon – went with Thomsons A La Carte and had a magical 2 weeks!
It was all so magical and wonderful – but I think the bit that sticks in my mind is I remember thinking ‘YES!’ when the registrar pronounced us husband and wife. I cried with happiness a lot too!
Did you experience any ‘nightmare’ moments in the run up to your wedding or on the day?
My dad forgetting to bring the bridesmaid’s handbags and stoles on the day. There were loads of stresses days beforehand especially in the last couple of weeks with people dropping out for no good reason and transport nightmares because all Kevs’ family and most of his friends had to travel up from Watford!
I wouldn’t change a thing except for reminding my parents about the things they forgot the day before. My advice would be that something will not go as you planned and just to shrug it off and deal with it – its no use stressing about things you cannot change!