Lisa McConnell and Brett Cole Our wedding day, when it finally arrived, was a beautiful sunny February day. I wasn’t a nervous as I had expected to be, but when…
Written by Paula Jones Last updated: May 14, 2009
16th August 2008
We met in September 2007 after chatting as friends on the internet. I fell for Sophie straight away and we decided to start dating. After a week I knew U wanted to marry her.
We were 30 and 31 when we got married.
I proposed after 4 months in the Glasgow botanic gardens glasshouse. I was very nervous but fortunately she said yes, after she got over the shock!
We had a joint burlesque hen do. I also had a stag do with some male friends of mine, and Sophie had a seperate hen do in london, her home town.
As two brides we shared the wedding planning completely, although I was the ‘project manager’!
I used confetti’s forums to bounce ideas off people and to get suggestions for suppliers. It was also nice to see a few other same sex couples planning their days.
Yes, I went to the store in Glasgow to buy confetti and table ornaments to create my ‘mock up’ table.
We both had our dresses custom made by the same designer. They were both purple – our colours were purple and orange.
We didn’t have bridesmaids, but I was walked in by my twin and Granny. Sophie was walked in by her Dad and one of her brothers. I did buy my sister a dress from M&S limited collection in orange.
Both brides asked that the men wear shades of white, grey and black and to avoid browns and creams. We didn’t want a ‘matchy matchy’ wedding but we didn’t want a clash either.
We had a civil partnership and in October of the same year we had a Jewish blessing lead by Sophie’s Mum. We wore white dresses for this.
Park Circus in Glasgow
Partick Burgh hall in the west end of Glasgow – it is right by our house which was very handy!
Yes, we had a vintage bus to transport all of our guests from the ceremony to the park for photos and then to the reception.
We had 28 during the day and a further 50 at night.
Our theme was purple and orange
We used purple confetti with table crystals and had centrepeices of bird of paradise flowers with purple calla lillies.
Yes – we made earrings for the ladies and keyrings for the men.
Neither of us carried flowers – I find bouquets very awkward! We bought our flowers from the flower market and I arranged them myself with my Mum.
We had a menu to reflect our backgrounds – Jewish and French, combined with a Scottish flavour as this is where we live. The menu included Chicken noodle soup with Matzo balls, and a French and Scottish cheeseboard.
We had a 3 tier cake – the top teir was wheat and gluten free, the middle tier was a carrot and walnut, and the bottom tier was a fruit tea loaf – My Granny’s favourite! I made all 3 cakes myself, along with Sophie, and we got a local cakemaker to ice them and decorate them with purple ribbon and gold butterflies.
Yes we had a ceildh.
We had a gift list with Debenhams and one with the Wedding shop.
We spent our first night at the Raddison in town, and we holidayed in Sitges and Barcelona.
Probably the ceremony, although I made sure not to drink too much so the whole day was memorable.
Yes, our photographer cancelled with less than 3 months to go, and our drinks supplier was very elusive although he was fine on the day.
I would have had water bottles on the bus, and candles on the tables at night but these are very minor things. The main thing I would say to other brides and grooms is that although it is your day, when you invite others to share it with you, make sure you are mindful of their feelings to a degree. Yes you should have the day that you want, but that doesn’t mean trampling on people to get it.