Sabina and Saleem June 1999 - How did you meet? We met in the Summer of 1996, when she was over here on a holiday, she came back and we…
Written by Paula Jones Last updated: October 24, 2006
We met in a pub in 1982.
There was no formal proposal. It just came about in conversation that we might as well finally get married.
I browsed through it but already pretty much knew what I wanted.
Initially, I bought a dress from Oasis because it was going to be such a low key affair, i.e. the two of us, our children and and two witnesses. When we invited more people, the original dress seemed more ‘wedding guest’ than bride, so I decided to look for something a bit more special. Given the fact that it was a civil ceremony, that we’d been together for over 20 years and have two children, a white gown or something too fussy didn’t seem appropriate. I became obsessed with the idea of a silver dress and spent many hours searching for one. Of the few I found, none seemed to fit the criteria. Almost on a whim, I went to a vintage clothes shop and there it was, hanging on a rail waiting for me: silver/grey material, decorated with silver embroidery with just enough diamante decoration to make it even more special. It’s about 70 years old. I wore a small and subtle tiara to match.
My daughters weren’t bridesmaids per se, but they did wear a pretty new dress and carried a pomander of roses.
Dudley Register Office.
Fox Inn, Shipley near Wolverhampton.
I made my own. For the ladies, I painted little boxes in silver and decorated each one in a different style using dimantes, tiny roses and other beads to reflect the colours of my dress and the wedding flowers. I filled each one with rose scented potpourri. For the men, I made top hats and filled those with chocolates.
I had a tear drop bouquet made up of pink roses, pink lilies and eucalyptus. My girls had pomanders of pink roses and my niece had a small, hand held bouquet of roses. They came from a local florist shop called Poppy’s who provided an excellent service.
We wanted the meal to be very informal and relaxed, without speeches or ceremony. I gave everyone a copy of the pub’s very extensive menu then handed it back in a week before the wedding. It meant that everyone’s taste was catered for and no one had to wait long to be served.
Didn’t have a cake.
We asked for plants to fill our newly renovated front garden. Thought it would be nice to have a living reminder of our wedding day. Some people gave money which we used to buy plants/shrubs/trees, others bought the plants themselves and we also had gift vouchers.
Spent the first night at home and went to Menorca (through First Choice) a couple of days later.
The whole day was perfect. There’s not really one particularly memorable moment, just a series of many. Everything went according to plan and for that I’m eternally grateful.
On the evening before, Mick went to bed complaining of a headache, stomach ache and a vile temper to match. I spent a very nervous night worrying.
I wouldn’t have changed a thing. It’s not necessary to spend a fortune in order to have your special day. I think that some women feel pressured into having things which they don’t really need. I don’t feel that there was any compromise on our day just because we didn’t have the usual trimmings. There was none of the stress normally associated with having to organise a wedding. Keeping it simple certainly worked for us.