Written by Paula Jones Last updated: December 9, 2007
Via Naseeb.com. That is not the urdu word for fate but rather a social networking website.
I am 29 and Moin is 30
On the morning of our engagement, Moin left a picture of us when we spent a sunset at the cliffs in Palos Verdes near my home. It’s a beautiful location with the ocean crashing against the cliffs. He included an instruction for a rendezvous and awaited me there in a suit, on a motorcycle and with the ring.
We call these bachelor and bachelorette parties in the US. I had a Moroccan themed bridal shower with turquoise as the main color. Moin had a low key camping trip on the James River in Virginia.
Moin was extremely patient with my bridezilla ways. I consulted him on key decisions. He selected the cards, made the website, organized the caterer for the boat and accompanied me tastings and venue selections.
My original wedding dress was custom made by the designer Sanya Muneer in Pakistan. However I was very unhappy with the final product, and I ended up ordering a new dress in the final weeks before the wedding. The second one was a deep fuchsia lengha hand stitched in Lucknow India. It had silver, gold and copper embroidery with fine beadwork.
We had a religious ceremony called a nikkah.
Poolside overlooking the marina at the Marina del Rey Ritz Carlton (near Los Angeles)
In the grand ballroom at the Marina del Rey Ritz Carlton.
A yellow Lotus Elise covered in orchids.
350 total guests at the wedding ceremony and reception. 200 attended the previous evening’s dinner cruise. And 200 attended a mehndi at my parents’ home.
Reds, fuchia, orange. The decorations were South Asian in design. Soft orange up‐lights accented the ballroom walls.
Each table had flora incorporating these colors.
Our guests received chocolate truffles from Opera Patisserie in San Diego. These were a huge hit.
Arrangements were half highs and half lows incorporating roses, orchids, and star gazer lilies. The vases were filled with crystals. Our florist –Luna Gardens of Beverly Hills – did a remarkable job the arrangements.
We had both the Ritz and an outside caterer – Tanzore an Indian restaurant in Beverly Hills. We provided a mix of Indian and American dishes. We catered the dinner cruise from Kabul West in San Diego – a popular Afghani caterer.. The Mehndi was catered by Al Watan and was a traditional Pakistani cuisine.
We had King’s Hawaiian bakery. The cake was four layers: 1) chocolate dobash, 2) vanilla chiffon with strawberries, 3) rainbow, and 4) carrot cake.
We had a Kumba Entertainment DJ. Our friends performed traditional kathak dancing and Bollywood style dancing.
We requested “no boxed gifts.”
We stayed in the honeymoon suite at the Ritz Carlton on the first night. We then flew the next day to Tahiti and stayed at the Sofitel Bora Bora and the Sofitel Moorea. Our honeymoon was arranged by True Tahiti Vacations.
Our entrances to the ceremony. I entered being in a dholi, carried by my brothers and cousins. Moin entered on a richly‐decorated white horse.
Nothing horrific happened. However, I lost my cool with the state of arrangements before I departed to my suite before the wedding. Everything turned out wonderfully in the end.
Choose your wedding planner very carefully. We had a nightmarish experience with two separate wedding planners. Also we recommend against South Asian Brides going back to India or Pakistan to have a custom dress made, unless you have someone you can absolutely trust who can oversee the whole process. Hiring a big name designer does not inoculate you from problems.