I proposed to my boyfriend Stuart last week. Sadly, I wasn't able to do it on the 29th, but did do it on the 1st of March. I wrote him…
Written by Paula Jones Last updated: May 23, 2007
On the Internet! Yes, we’re those Internet weirdos. Actually it was on a forum a bit like the Confetti one (only not wedding related, as that would be a bit weird).
I’m 32 and Paul is 33.
He proposed in Turkey in May 2006. We’d already discussed marriage and decided to go and buy the engagement ring out there as diamonds are much better value for money. We chose a ring then the night it was delivered to our hotel he arranged delivery of a bouquet of flowers and the hotel staff decorated the restaurant in honour of our engagement and he officially proposed. I cried, even though I knew it was coming!
I went to Berlin with 8 girls for the weekend. We ended up in some very dodgy bars! Paul had a night in his home town with an old friend visiting their old teenage haunts. The night before the wedding I went for a meal with all the female guests and Paul went on a bar crawl with all the male guests.
He chose the music, the suits and his wedding ring.
I used the forums, a LOT. The girls on there are a fountain of wedding knowledge.
Yes, I got some tissue paper, ribbon, thank you cards, table plan and gift bags. I went into the London store.
I had a Sincerity gown – 2952 – in ivory. Bought at Elderberry Brides in Basingstoke. As a plus size bride I was dreading buying my dress but Pam at EB was absolutely fantastic and I can’t recommend them highly enough. I felt like a princess.
I had my four oldest friends as bridesmaids. Three of them wore deep pink dresses from Next and the other wore a sari in the same colour, to reflect her Sri Lankan heritage. They looked gorgeous.
The boys suits were all hired from Debenhams. Paul went for traditional tails – although didn’t bother with the top hat or gloves. They had a mixture of ivory and gold waistcoats, ties and hankies.
At the Hotel Telmessos in Hisaronu, Turkey.
At the Telmessos.
A plane! We all had to fly to Turkey.
We invited 120 people and 45 of them accepted and attended our wedding. No separate evening guests – we thought it a bit mean to get them to come all the way to Turkey and only invite them to the evening!
We had a mix of ivory, gold and deep pink. However it was a very Turkish style wedding with a mix of colours and although it sounds dreadful, it really fit the location.
We had ivory favour boxes, gold ribbon, and gold gift bags for the children
Yes – Turkish delight!
We all had white roses and lillies. They were incredibly fragrant and as the hotel had arranged the flowers we had no idea what we would be getting until they arrived on the day. They were gorgeous!
The hotel handled the catering. We had two different types of soup, 40 different mezes, a bbq with lamb and chicken kebabs and baklava for dessert
The hotel arranged the cake from a local pattiserie. It was ENORMOUS. Five tiers of sponge and chocolate cake. It was not exactly what I’d asked for – I wanted understated and elegant – what I got was a huge multi-coloured monstrocity. However, it was very funny and has been a big talking point since.
We had a Turkish band and a belly dancer – both were great for breaking the ice.
No. We asked for cash or vouchers.
We stayed at the Telmessos for the first night and most of the honeymoon, although we did have a two day trip to Ephesus and Pamukkale – wonders of the Turkish world.
The first moment Paul looked at me when I got to the top of the aisle. I blubbed my way through the rest of the service.
We lost the cats’ vaccination certificates the day before we were due to fly out and the cattery refused to accept them without them. There were tantrums and tears. Turns out Paul had filed them behind the treadmill in the spare bedroom – obviously!
I wouldn’t march up the aisle quite so quickly! I zoomed up there and the bridesmaids had trouble keeping up! My advice would be to try and take it all in as much as possible. It goes so so fast and it’s almost impossible to remember everything. Make sure you have a guest book – we had a polaroid one and it’s one of our most treasured keepsakes from the day. Don’t worry about getting your dress dirty – it’ll stop you from having fun.