Sabina and Saleem June 1999 - How did you meet? We met in the Summer of 1996, when she was over here on a holiday, she came back and we…
Written by Paula Jones Last updated: January 19, 2008
29th September, 2007
We met in 2004 via Yahoo personals on the internet. I always thought internet dating was only for the desperate and never thought I’d find my future husband on it! Ironically he only lived about a mile from me and our paths should have crossed many times before it actually did. I did chat to him on messenger for several weeks before I agreed to meet him for a drink
I’ve got a toy boy! I’m 48 and he’s 43.
Over the telephone after the rugby team he supports lost..a drunken “Quins lost, I love you, will you marry me”? I did make him ask me again when he was sober just to make sure he was serious.
He went on a stag weekend to Torquay to do some bowling, paint balling and clay pigeon shooting. At my age I thought I was far too old to have a hen party so I didn’t bother. Might have a belated one in Ireland in a few weeks time when the girlies are meeting up.
By sorting out the photographer as photography is his other hobby. He also help by keeping out of the way and agreeing with most of things I chose, said or did!! Being two Aquarians with birthdays 2 days apart, we usually end up chosing the same things as we think the same way.. very spooky at times, when I’m thinking of something and he’ll just say exactly what I’m thinking.
I used the wedding planner and viewed the web site to get ideas. I’m fairly organised and used to organise events at work so I everything I had to do was done well in advance.
Never got round to sorting this out.
I wore a Maggie Sottero dress. Having spent months trawling through web sites on the internet I decided I wanted a red dress as everyone tells me I look good in red. I didn’t want a train as I wanted to be able to jive dance at the reception. On my second visit to a local wedding dress shop, Maid In Heaven in Ashford, Middlesex, I decided as this was the only time I’d ever be able to wear a white dress, and as all the red dress looked liked ball gowns, then it had to be a white dress. It was now a search for something straight and white. I chose Tuscana Vidal from Maggie Sottero. The pictures don’t do this dress justice.. the beads just sparkled as they caught the light. I really wish I could wear it again.
Had my neice as a ring bearer. She wore a white and gold dress from BHS. As we were having a wedding service in a hotel I decided I didn’t need a bridesmaid however I wanted to involve my young neice in the day.
The best man was Howard’s mate Steve. As we got married in a hotel, we didn’t bother with ushers.
Aberavon Beach Hotel, Aberavon, South Wales. Howard comes from Wales, my family come from Cumbria and we live near London, so we wanted somewhere central. I love the beach at Aberavon and wanted a wedding where the service and reception were in the same place and once guests had arrived they didn’t have to travel any further as everything was in the one place.
Aberavon Beach Hotel, Aberavon, South Wales. The staff were wonderful, the food was wonderful…. I’ve organised work events in top London hotels, and the service at the Aberavon Beach was the best I’ve ever come across. I couldn’t have asked for anything more.
107 guests, 6 children and 4 babies. We did not have a separate evening guest list.
Not really. As my invitations had dark red roses on them I wanted a dark red theme.
I used the same dark red roses on the place settings as I did on the save the day cards, invitations and thank you cards. Florist did red and gold flowers for the table. I also put rose petals on the tables for the evening reception.
I gave the ladies candles which were hand made by a very nice lady on Ebay. The men all got ring keys in the shape of rugby balls. Each one depicted their nationality as we had guests from Scotland, Ireland, Wales and England.
I had red roses only in my bouquet. Each rose had a crystal in the centre of it which sparkled when the sun light caught them. My friend Lesley did my bouquet, Mia’s posy and the family button holes. Baglan Florist did the table decorations.
Hotel food was excellent.. couldn’t have asked for anything better. We had melon to start with, turkey, apple pie followed by cheese and biscuits. So much food it would barely fit on the tables!
I had 2 wedding cakes. My auntie made both and even managed to transport them from Cumbria to Wales without any damage. I had a 2 tier fruit cake with hand made sugar red roses and I also had a rugby pitch chocolate cake.
Just a disco in the evening.
Gift list was with John Lewis. We also asked for high street vouchers seeing as we’ve both had our own abodes before we bought a house together plus being an older couple we’d both aquired household items over the years.
We stayed at the Aberavon Beach hotel for the first 2 nights and then flew out to Mauritius on the Monday evening. Honeymoon was through Kuoni booked by Going Places.
Bursting in to tears as I walked in to the registry service and again when I tried to make a speech at the end of the wedding breakfast. On honeymoon I read in a book, that women should never make speeches at weddings for that very reason.. we get too emotional.
Thank goodness no we didn’t.
Before ordering your special dress, sit down in it in the shop. It wasn’t until about the 3 fitting that I sat down in it to try on some wedding shoes…I was horrified to find parts of my boobs were hanging out of the dress!!! If I’d realised that before I chose that particular dress, I might not have chosen that one!! I was horrified to see some of the wedding photos but some of my friends said “some women pay a small fortune to have boobs like that so don’t worry about it”. “We’re jealous.. wish we had boobs that size instead of being flat chested”.