Once upon a time, the role of parents of the groom was clear when it came to weddings ‐ you sat back and let the bride’s parents get on with…
Written by Paula Jones Last updated: June 6, 2006
Whether or not you’re playing a central role in the preparations, you can help the happy couple make their day extra special simply by providing…
Parents of the groom have plenty to contribute
Your involvement in organising the wedding can vary tremendously depending on what jobs have been given to the bride’s parents and what the bride and groom have decided they want to do themselves. You can also always make suggestions for jobs you think you could do.
Whether or not you’re playing a central role in the preparations, you can help the happy couple make their day extra special simply by providing emotional and maybe extra financial support. The main thing is that jobs are clearly allocated before the preparations start, so that everyone knows exactly what they are supposed to be doing. If you’re all playing a role in the organising, this will require negotiation between you, the couple and the bride’s parents.
If you’re not asked to help, you can always offer to get involved in the preparations or to make financial contributions. But if the bride’s parents have it all under control, you can breathe a sigh of relief, relax and just enjoy the celebrations.
One important job is to help your son draw up a guest list. Tact and diplomacy is needed here. Don’t push for too many of your friends and family if he doesn’t want them there.
Once you have a list established it would be helpful to provide full names and addresses of these people for later on down the line when the invites have to be written and delivered.