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What Does An Usher Do, Exactly?

16th January 2017 |By | 8 Comments

No matter how excited, or cool, calm and collected the groom may say he is, he’ll undoubtedly be a little nervous and will need the moral support of his nearest and dearest friends. Whether you’re family or lifelong friends, if you’re chosen to be one of your mate’s groomsmen, you’ve been honoured with a big responsibility. We’re here to help you suss your usher duties.

Dapper and helpful are two qualities of the perfect usher. |

Usher Duties Before the Wedding

Unlike the best man, you won’t have a laundry list of tasks to complete ahead of the big day, but you should be available in any situations where assistance is required. Although, it is traditionally the best man who’ll sort the stag do, you might want to be on hand to help out with securing bookings, putting a deposit down on whatever activity you decide to do and generally making sure the lads have a great time.

General Usher Duties

As an usher, you’ll generally be asked to ensure everyone is getting along both in the run up to the big day and on the wedding day itself. You may find that your skills are especially needed if your fellow ushers don’t know each other. Both the best man and the groom will appreciate any help they can get in getting the group together and ensuring that everyone is comfortable around one another. It’s a good idea to set aside some time to discuss this with the best man and the groom; it’s also a nice idea to plan a get together before the stag do.

Usher Duties During the Wedding & Reception

On the big day, your duties will include anything from directing guests to their seats at the ceremony, to helping wheelchair bound guests find their place in the venue to acting as a back up for storing important phone numbers of suppliers and key wedding party members.

The perfect usher is ready to leap into action at a moment’s notice, putting his friends’ happiness above his own on their wedding day. The perfect usher is a calm and polite helper who enhances the smooth running of the day.

You’ll probably be asked to:

  • Escort guests from their cars to the venue; knowing what British weather is like, we suggest you have a brolly to hand.
  • Assist with getting guests’s cars parked–no, you won’t be a valet, but you should have a general knowledge of where guests can and cannot park their cars.
  • Help direct guests to which side of the venue they should sit, although this is a more traditional role and more modern ceremonies encourage all of the guests to sit together.
  • Assist with directing guests to their seats.
  • Escorting both the mother-of-the-bride and the mother-of-the-groom to her seats.
  • Stand at the back of the venue to greet latecomers and help them find a seat without too much disruption.
  • Tactfully handle intoxicated guests at the reception so they do not cause unnecessary upset
  • Ensure that no guests attempt to drive who are under the influence; have a list of cab companies ready to taxi guests home if need be.

What the Groom Should Know about Ushers

When choosing your ushers, it’s important to be selective. Remember: your ushers will be there to support and assist you so choose friends or family who you know are reliable and willing to get the job done.

Finally, it is customary to give ushers a gift when asking them to be a member of your wedding party. Here are four of our favourite gifts perfect for your groomsmen:

Perfect usher gifts from

Clockwise, from top right: Ale Gift Set | Faux Leather Hip Flask | Usher Cufflinks | Gun Metal Pocket Watch | Men’s Travel Bag all from

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Kate Thompson
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Kate Thompson is the features editor and wedding expert at Confetti. A widely published lifestyle writer, she has worked in the wedding industry for 15 years and has made BBC television and radio appearances discussing wedding trends in the UK.

8 Replies to “What Does An Usher Do, Exactly?”

  1. Confused.

    Are Ushers and Groomsmen the same? Ushers are not part of the wedding party,are they? I always thought their part in the wedding was to attend to the guest. Please explain.

    Reply· Jul 14, 2013 8:35pm
    1. Agnes Los

      Hello and thank you for your comment. Groomsmen is a name given to the male attendants including the best man, just as bridesmaids is given to the female attendants including the chief bridesmaid. Then they are called by their tasks – best man is the best man, while the rest of the groomsmen have the role of the ushers – that is support at the wedding and taking care of the guests.
      Hope this helps, please let us know if you have any other questions!

      Jul 15, 2013 8:27am
  2. glynis

    I have been asked to be an usher at my nieces wedding. As a female are there any particular duties.

    Reply· Aug 21, 2013 1:33pm
    1. Agnes Los

      Hello Glynis – congratulations on being chosen an “usherette”, how lovely! The duties aren’t much different than those for a male usher, but it’s a good idea to ask the bride and groom to see if they have anything else they’d like to do especially.

      Aug 21, 2013 1:57pm
  3. Vane

    What Is The appropriate Dress to wear to an ushering interview?

    Reply· Apr 22, 2017 9:18pm
    1. Kate Thompson
      Kate Thompson

      Are you being interviewed by the bride and groom or their parents? Either way I would say that smart or smart/ casual should be fine. A suit may be more appropriate if you are going to meet the bride’s parents for a very formal wedding.

      Apr 24, 2017 12:32pm
  4. Clara

    Is it professional for an usher to give thier contact to guest on post or after the event?

    Reply· May 2, 2017 9:14am
    1. Kate Thompson
      Kate Thompson

      Hi Clara

      It’s fine for an usher to give their contact details to a guest at or after the wedding. It’s up to the guest whether or not they choose to follow them up.

      Kind regards, Kate

      May 10, 2017 11:37am

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