Written by Anyonita Green Last updated: March 26, 2015
When it comes to his wedding day, your friend is going to want his boys by his side. No matter how excited, or cool, calm and collected he is, he’ll undoubtedly be nervous and will need the moral support of his nearest and dearest. Whether you’re family or lifelong friends, if you’re chosen to be one of your mate’s groomsmen, you’ve been honoured with a big responsibility. We’re here to help you suss your usher duties.
Unlike the best man, you won’t have a laundry list of tasks to complete ahead of the big day, but you should be available in any situations where assistance is required. Although, it is traditionally the best man who’ll sort the stag do, you might want to be on hand to help out with securing bookings, putting a deposit down on whatever activity you decide to do and generally making sure the lads have a great time.
These days, stag parties tend to be a lot more sophisticated than your traditional piss up in the pub. We’re talking about weekends abroad skiing in the Alps, sunning yourself on the beaches in Spain or even hopping across the pond for a jaunt of gambling in Las Vegas. Whether you’re going far afield or staying close to home, don’t leave all of the stag party duties to the best man. You can take a bit of the brunt work on by helping to source cheap flights and accommodation and ensuring that if everyone does get a wee bit legless, they remain in one piece.
As an usher, you’ll generally be looked to to help smooth things over and ensure everyone is getting along both in the run up to the big day and at the wedding itself. You may find that your skills are especially needed if your fellow ushers don’t know each other. Both the best man and the groom will appreciate any help they can get in getting the group together and ensuring that everyone is comfortable around one another. It’s a good idea to set aside some time to discuss this with the best man and the groom; it’s also a nice idea to plan a night down the local pub before the stag do.
The big day has arrived! This is when your role as an usher is greatly needed. This means anything from directing guests to their seats at the ceremony, to helping wheelchair bound guests find their place in the venue to acting as a back up for storing important phone numbers of suppliers and key wedding party members. The perfect usher is ready to leap into action at a moment’s notice, putting his mate’s and future partner’s happiness above his own on their wedding day. The perfect usher is a calm and polite helper who enhances the smooth running of the day.
You’ll probably be asked to:
When choosing your ushers, it’s important to be selective. Review this article to get a good idea of the types of things your ushers will be expecting you to ask their assistance with. Remember: your ushers will be there to support and assist you. Choose blokes who you know are reliable and willing to get the job done. Finally, it is customary to give ushers a gift when asking them to be a member of your wedding party. Here are four of our favourite gifts perfect for your groomsmen:
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