September 15, 2006. Written by Paula Jones
It can be difficult to find the right words at times to express everything you feel. So we’ve gathered together some real life bride’s speeches to give you some inspiration when writing your own. Remember though that these are just for ideas. The best speeches are from the heart and say something personal from the speaker to the audience.
“Well, I guess this is slightly unusual – a bride’s speech, but those of you who know me will also know the chance of me being able to keep my mouth shut while everyone else does a speech is pretty slim.
Mum and dad, what can I say? You have seen me grow up, you’ve helped develop and mature me into the person that I am today and I hope that after 20 years, all of your hard work has been worthwhile. I love you both very much.
Again, I just want to reiterate all the thanks that have gone before, my mum and dad, my new parents in law.
(presentation of gifts to the parents)
Special thanks go to my beautiful bridesmaids, you all look absolutely stunning, that’s why I’ve had to seat them as far away from me as possible! Thank you to our best man for dragging my new husband kicking and screaming here today. I hope that I am only joking when I say that!
(presentation of gifts to bridesmaids)
But most of all, I would like to thank my new husband for asking me, and for going through with it!
I thought about reading a poem, but I couldn’t find any which came anywhere near as happy as I am today with my closest friends and family around to see me marry the man I love.
And finally, a word or maybe more, about my husband – wow! I can finally say that now! He came into my life and completely changed it – more grey hairs and worry lines for a start! In all seriousness, I adore this man, and I would like to thank him for his patience, understanding and most of all putting up with my tears, tantrums and spectacular bridezilla moments. You are my rock, you will make a super husband and more importantly, a wonderful dad.
Finally, I would like to say a huge thank you to each and every one of you for being with us today. A wedding can happen anywhere and at any time, but it can only be a true celebration when all the people you love are there to share it with you, so really, you have made our day.
I would like you all to raise your glasses and drink a toast…to dear friends and family.”
“Good evening ladies and gentlemen.
I stand here tonight in place of my father, who sadly passed away in 2003.
My dad wasn’t one for sentiment, but I do feel that if he were here today his speech would probably follow the traditional route. He’d maybe start by saying how absolutely beautiful the bride is looking today and how she took his breath away when he saw her ready to leave for the church earlier. He’d probably stick with tradition for a little longer and say that she’s grown into an intelligent, successful woman, and how proud he is of her.
Well, who am I to stand in the way of tradition?!
Dad would probably then go on to say how thrilled he is that I am marrying John. Now, it’s not just because his dad owns a pub, but also because he can see how happy he makes me, and how perfectly suited we are to each other.
I first fell in love with John years ago when we met at university. He had a sense of fun that was infectious to all around him, especially the girls – and there were a few of those, weren’t there honey? But I knew right then that I could be the happiest woman alive if I could be his only girl.
Thank you so much for proposing and for turning up today; on time, clean shaven, and appropriately dressed.
You are generous, warm hearted and caring. I know that you will always be there to catch me when I fall, to make me a bed on the sofa when I’ve had too much to drink, and to impress my girlfriends with your cooking.
I love you completely, but then you know that already because I tell you far too often, and yet you don’t mind. I love that you always make me laugh, and that life is so much more fun with you in it. I look forward to our life together, tending the garden, throwing barbecues, and wandering around the supermarket hoping that nobody will notice that you aren’t wearing any underpants!
Thank you for marrying me today and making me your Mrs Smith.
Now as the bride I would like to tell you that I did it all myself today, but that would only be half true! It took an army and I would like to take this opportunity to thank some of them.
Firstly, of course, I’d like to thank our curate for marrying us today.
Thanks goes to my stunning bridesmaids, to Sarah for being so patient when trying on so many dresses. Laura is the light of our family, you fill us with such pride, always ready with a smile, you will always be our favourite niece.
Compared to most brides, I have known my bridesmaids Cheryl and Susan for a relatively short length of time, but our friendships have quickly grown, and I know I can always rely on them for support in the shape of a glass of wine or a banoffee pie! Thank you guys for being here today, for looking gorgeous, and for taking one for the team by wearing flat shoes!
I’d like to thank the Smiths for welcoming me so warmly into their family. To Rachel and Michael in particular for their warmth and support, and for raising John so well, although I understand that the warranty is now out of date and the deadline for returns has long since passed. I might keep him for a while though, he has so many qualities; charm, brains and beauty are sadly the only ones missing!
I’d like to thank my sister for, I want to say walking beside me, but it was more of a waddle, today and every day. Jane and I argued with each other throughout most of our childhood, and spent our teenage years looking at each other with complete irreverence. But we’ve mellowed in our old age and have now grown so close that I am immensely proud to call her my sister. Thank you farty pants for being there.
Finally I’d like to thank my parents. They gave Jane and I the strength and courage to face every new challenge ahead with a sense of humour and a strong spirit. We could not have got through the last few years without them.
Even at the best of times, I think you’ll agree that parents can be embarrassing, annoying and frustrating, but a wise woman once said ‘you don;’t know what you’ve got ’til it’s gone’ and never was a truer word spoken. I miss them every day but appreciate them all the more since their passing.
So, on this note, I would like you to be upstanding and to join me in our first toast of the evening…To absent friends!”
“To our guests, I am delighted that you found the time to join us here today. It has made such a difference to have been surrounded by our closest friends on this, our big day. We have been overwhelmed by your kindness and generosity.
To my new parents in law, thank you for bringing John into this world, without you we wouldn’t be here today! John and I are two people now with one path before us, and we are both grateful for the people and experiences that have shaped us.
Susan, you are my oldest and dearest friend. We have been through some bad times and we have been through a lot of good times. Your friendship has been a source of strength to me throughout the years, and I want to say that I feel honoured to have you standing with me today, so thank you.
To my parents, thank you for everything. You are my model for what marriage should be; many years of laughter, tears, compromise, understanding, dependability, and above all, love. From you both I learnt that marriage is about forgiveness and patience, being together through the good times and never giving up through the bad. I hope that what John and I have is just as special.
And to John, well, where do I start? I never thought that I would be standing here today. But I am so glad that I am. In you, I have my best friend, my love and my companion in life. Thank you for your love, friendship and support through the rough times, and the joy that you have brought into my life. With you by my side I have so much hope for the future, and I look forward to making our dreams into reality and sharing the journey with you.
To everyone, please enjoy the rest of the day, and join me in a toast…To our beautiful guests!”
“A slight break with tradition I know, but it’s no surprise that I’m making a speech, since as most of you will know, I like to have my say!
So firstly, to my new set of parents, what can I say? You have raised John to be the most kind hearted, loving, patient and considerate man a woman could hope to call her husband, and for this I’m truly grateful. What other man would take me down the same ski slope where he broke his knee so that I could break my arm on the same spot? That’s real romance! Who else but him, knowing my love for the water, would attempt to drown the pair of us in the river as part of a carefully thought-out proposal?
Seriously though, I could not ask for a more thoughtful, devoted and selfless husband, and cheesy though it most certainly sounds, marrying you today has been the happiest day of my life. I only hope that over the coming years I can live up to your expectations.
I also owe a big thank you to mum and dad for helping me out in so many ways to make this day so special, and in return I assure you, especially you dad, that only the finest nursing home awaits you! As much as I would threaten to call Childline, swear that I was adopted or dare you to ground me, I know that it was only because you loved me so much that you would ask me where I was going, with whom, and what time I would be home. These days I’m glad that you loved me enough to say ‘no’ even though you knew I would hate you for it. Between you and I especially dad, those were the most difficult battle of all, but I’m glad you won, because in the end I did too.
Mum, you loved me enough to stand over me for two hours whilst I cleaned my room, a job that would have taken you fifteen minutes; as well as to insist that I saved up and bought new things, through tantrums, sulks and silent treatment, even though you could afford to buy them for me.
Of course, my beloved big brother, I’m glad you loved me enough to be silent and let me learn for myself that this boyfriend or that boyfriend was a creep, and to be the final judge of my behaviour who knew exactly the right point to say “enough is enough.”
Throughout the years I’m glad that all of you have loved me enough to let me see anger, disappointment and tears in your eyes. I feel privileged to have a family wise enough to let me see that they aren’t perfect, and who would always ensure that I assumed responsibility for my actions, even when the penalties were so harsh they almost broke your hearts.
On the subject of family, I just wanted to say how much I wish my grandparents were here to enjoy this day as much as we have, to embarrass me with stories best left forgotten, and impart some important piece of advice that would be brief, simple and desperately relevant. I know that wherever they are, they are looking down on us all and smiling and the candle burning here on our table is for them.
Mostly I’d like to thank John, just for asking – although it took him long enough, and special thanks to Sarah for throwing the bouquet at her wedding six months ago with such accuracy and helping him along.
Of course some people couldn’t make it, so with that in mind I’d also like to make a toast, then you can all get on with eating your cake. Please lift your glasses and drink…To absent friends!”
“Those of you who know me well will not be surprised that I have something to say. Those of you who don’t know me so well will soon realise that I can’t keep quiet for more than 3 minutes at a time!
Firstly, I’d like to thank my friends for their readings and Susan for her beautiful singing. All these years later I am proud to have you guys as the best friends I could wish for. Thank you to my matron of honour, who has always been the closest thing to a sister to me, and my new sister in law for their help today.
I think you will all agree that my hair looks fabulous today, which is down to my wonderful hairdresser who has come into the salon at ridiculous hours of the day and on his days off to make sure it looked perfect today.
While planning this wedding i have, to John’s amusement, become addicted to a bridal chatroom called Confetti where I have been a constant poster. However there has been one topic on which I have never been able to post – “My mother in law is a nightmare.” Thank you for being the best parents in law I could have wished for, and for welcoming me into your family.
Mum and dad, there is so much to say that I will just leave it at “thanks for everything.”
John, I waited ages for you to come, but you were certainly worth waiting for.
And finally, there are some people who aren’t here today that I would like to remember. So please join me in raising your glasses in a toast…To our grandparents.”
“I know it isn’t traditional for the bride to speak, but as you can see we are breaking all the rules today. Also it gives me the last word, so it is good practise for John!
Firstly I’d like to echo all the other speeches in thanking everybody who helped with the preparations today. You know who you are and you are very special people. I am grateful to have your help, support and friendship in my life.
In particular I’d like to thank the creators of the internet, without whom this wedding could never have taken place! I’d also like to thank my boss for pretending not to notice that I’d turned my office into a delivery point!
To my evil step‐child, who by letting me into her life has allowed me to unleash a talent I never knew I had, as a truly wicked step‐mother!
And to my big brother, for his reassuring calmness, his strange humour and his good advice at time when I really, really thought I would go pop! I owe you big time.
Special thanks must also go to the hens, for making my last weekend as a singleton exceptional. The food, the fun, the tasks…To be honest that’s all I can say about that because “what goes on tour ‐ stays on tour!”
And of course, thanks to all of you for taking the time to come here today to see John legally agree to keep me in the manner to which I have become accustomed until he’s dead!
Anyway, I’m going to try not to keep you long, but I can’t promise anything!
Our wedding must have come as a huge shock to all of you, because my close friends were all well aware of my jaded views concerning marriage, and that personally, I never ever wanted to get married.
But, being honest, it was you lot that put me off! I used to look at my friends, in particular my beautiful and elegant bridesmaids here today, some of whom have been married almost from birth, and some who took a little longer to get there. The one thing they all had in common was that ‘spark’; that thing that goes on between a couple where they are so well in tune and so compatible. I’m sure that if any of my girlfriends would let their blokes get a word in, they would be able to finish off their sentences for them. I recognised that that was a rare thing and that you were really, really lucky if you had that in your life. That ‘spark’ and I knew that I didn’t.
For those of you that don’t know, my step dad was diagnosed with Leukaemia a few years ago. It was a terrible, awful time. Now, I am not a religious person, hence the wedding in a place with built in bars, but I did pray with all my might to whatever force of good is out there to take me instead. Not just because I didn’t want to lose him, which obviously goes without saying, and not somehow because I’m a less valuable person than him, but because I didn’t want my mum to lose her ‘spark’ she spent so long looking for. This ‐ despite the fact she moans about him all the time, but in her defence, he really is the worlds’ messiest person!
As you can see by his presence here today, that bargain worked out just fine. So fine in fact, that far from taking up the offer of my worthless soul, he not only came back to us, but after a while I was rewarded with my very own ‘spark’ to moan about!
My new husband. He is a person who can, just by looking at me, make me laugh so hard that I have on occasion weed myself just a little. Who puts up with my tantrums when I can’t find just the right shoes, and who provides chocolate when I am fed up; because he knows that he should even if he doesn’t know why. I can only hope that I provide the same support to him, I can definitely provide the chocolate…
So once again, we would like to thank each and every one of you for the contributions you have all made to make our day special. We hope that you enjoy yourselves this evening.
And finally, I would like to finish with a quote by Emily Bronte who said of marriage: “Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same.” Emily ‐ I totally agree. Thank you.”
“The best thing about making a bride’s speech is that there are no rules about what you should be saying, although I’m sure you’ll be pleased to know that I do intend to keep this short and sweet.
However, there is one very important person that I do need to mention. After 8 years together I think I know what I’m letting myself in for, but John, I am really happy to finally be able to call myself your wife.
There is just one ground rule that I would like to set: remember, if we ever disagree, a husband’s last words should always be “okay dear, buy it.”
But, more seriously, there are some people who’ve made a real contribution to today who I really wanted to thank myself ‐ starting off with my mum and dad, who have been fantastic, not just in the run up to today, but over the past 30 years. Thanks for your support, patience and friendship, they mean a lot to me.
I’d also like to thank John’s parents for welcoming me into their family.
Of course I owe a big thank you to my bridesmaids. I’d also like to thank all the girls who came on my hen weekend and made it such a special couple of days.
But seriously, thank you to my new husband for making this the happiest day of my life. I hope that every day will be just as happy as today, but much less expensive!
Finally, I’d like to say a huge thank you to each and every one of you for being with us today. You really have made our day, it is a true celebration because all of you are here sharing it with us. I would like to propose a toast to all of you as a thank you for being here…our guests!”
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