Who says what

June 6, 2006. Written by

Here’s a brief outline of who traditionally says what in wedding speeches

Father of the bride or friend of the family

  • Thanks the guests for coming and participating in the special day
  • Thanks everyone who has contributed to the cost of the wedding
  • Compliments and praises the bride, and welcomes her new husband into the family
  • Toasts the bride and groom


  • Thanks the father of the bride for his toast
  • Thanks the guests for attending and for their gifts
  • Thanks both sets of parents
  • Compliments his bride
  • Thanks his best man
  • Thanks and toasts the bridesmaid

Best Man

  • Thanks the groom for his toasts to the bridesmaids.
  • Comments on the bridal couple, particularly the groom
  • Reads any messages from absent friends and relatives
  • Toasts the bride and groom


  • Thanks the guests for coming
  • Thanks her parents and bridesmaids
  • Compliments the groom
  • Proposes the toast

Chief Bridesmaid

  • Thanks the bride
  • Compliments the ushers
  • Proposes a toast

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