There are no hard and fast rules but the wedding speeches and toasts traditionally follows the order of: father of the bride, groom, best man, and other toasts. It’s growing more and more popular for the brides to make a speech too. So here’s a brief run-down of the traditional order of the toasts, and who says what about whom.
The Father of the Bride/ Friend of the Family
As the bridal couple are central to the day, whoever makes the first speech/toast ends by toasting the bride and groom. Traditionally this is the father of the bride. He:
- Thanks the guests for coming and participating in the special day
- Thanks everyone who has contributed to the cost of the wedding
- Compliments and praises the bride, and welcomes her new husband into the family
- Toasts the bride and groom
Traditionally, the groom :
- Thanks the father of the bride for his toast
- Thanks the guests for attending and for their gifts
- Thanks both sets of parents
- Compliments his bride
- Thanks his best man
- Thanks and toasts the bridesmaid(s)
- He may also toast the hosts
The Best Man
The best man traditionally:
- Thanks the groom for his toasts to the bridesmaids.
- Comments on the bridal couple, particularly the groom
- Reads any messages from absent friends and relatives
- Ends with a final toast to the bride and groom
Also, the bride, and sometimes the bridesmaid/maid of honour, are becoming increasingly more likely to say few words to mark the day. Generally, these toasts will come between the groom and best man.
- Thanks the guests for coming
- Thanks her parents and bridesmaids
- Compliments the groom
- Proposes the toast
The Chief Bridesmaid
The chief bridesmaid:
- Thanks the bride
- Compliments the ushers
- Proposes a toast
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