June 6, 2006. Written by Paula Jones
The idea of sitting with a blank piece of paper and being expected to write a list of sparkling, witty, romantic wedding vows to wow your partner and your wedding guests is enough to throw even the very best author into a total panic! But try not to be too daunted or head for the nearest pub! Kick-start your creativity for writing wedding vows by having a read through our examples.
Just remember that the vows you say when you initially get married, and also if you later renew your vows, are purely supposed to be promises about the strength of your feelings for your husband- or wife‐to‐be and how you will honour those feelings by behaving in the best way you can towards them once you are married.
This is the purpose of vows, whether you choose traditional wedding vows or vows that have a more relaxed and non‐religious tone (such as for a civil wedding.)
Start by sitting together, (or apart if you find it easier), and think about your partner, how much you love and respect them and how you could show this by behaving in a particular way towards them.
I promise to love and respect you and to put energy into keeping our love alive. I will be there for you in good times and bad. I will help you when you need help and make space for you to be yourself. I will try to bring you happiness.
I will dedicate myself to you wholeheartedly. I will make time for you and support you in everything you do. I will help you to raise our children to become loving people, and support you in the fundamental role of parent.
I pledge my life to you. I will love, honour and respect you in happy and sad times. I promise to be faithful to only you as long as we both live.
I __, promise to love and cherish you__, for the rest of your life. I will try to bring laughter to your life, and make you happy, I will consider you in the decisions I have to make, and value your opinions. Today I vow to be your husband/wife for the rest of our lives.
I will seek to always be loving unto you. I will share you joys and your sorrows, and will be devoted unto you until the ultimate parting.
__, I __, take you to be my husband/wife. To have, to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish till death us do part, and this is my solemn vow.
__, today I promise to respect you always. I will share the good times and bad times with you, be a support and guide. Above all, I will love you from now until our days end.
I, ___ ___, promise to be to you, __ __, a true and loving companion. I promise to be the best husband/wife and parent that I can be and to commit myself forever to our relationship together.
Today I promise to be your husband/wife. I will be faithful and honest, loving and trustworthy. I will seek to bring you stability and order in a chaotic world. I will be your partner and friend for life.
___, in this beautiful garden I dedicate myself to you. Although our lives may change like the seasons, I will love you. As our love grows like a seed to a beautiful flower, I will love you. When the winds of doubt blow through, I will love you. We will stand together, strong, nurtured by each other’s love until the end.
You could write your vows in a question and answer format, so that the minister reads your vows for you. For example:
Registrar/celebrant:__, today you have come to promise to share your life with__.
Do you promise to love and protect her, to be faithful to her and to be always supporting and understanding? Do you promise to share your life with each other, to trust and be honest and faithful to each other? Will you live in a spirit of tolerance, mutual support and concern for each other’s well being, sharing your responsibilities and joys?
Groom: I do
Registrar/celebrant: We have come together today to witness the vows that __ and __ are about to make. ___, do you now agree to take __ as your wife, understanding and expecting that she will be your partner for life? Will you love her, support her and help her to achieve her potential? Will you share your love through whatever is to come, until the end of your life?
Groom: I will.
If you still feel stuck for inspiration, find more top tips throughout our article pages or invest in a book on readings, poems and vows. There are also hundreds of brides and brides-to-be in the Confetti forums who have lots of great advice for you!
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