We have everything we need for our house and would like it if our friends gave money to charity rather than to us. How would we word the requests for this?
That's a wonderful idea. The best thing for you to do is to put a note inside your invitations saying something like:
have decided not to hold a wedding list
However should you wish to buy them a gift
they would be very grateful if you would
make a donation to their favourite charity
Should you require more information please phone...(your number)
I would also recommend contacting the charity of your choice to ask how guests can donate easily - perhaps they will be able to set up a special charity gift list for you.