So, your love has popped the question and you’ve said yes. Congratulations! You’re now officially engaged. Here’s what to do when you get engaged, from choosing the ring to planning your engagement party and beyond.
The First Thing to do When You Get Enagaged
It’s the most romantic time. You are betrothed to the one you love and about to start planning what should be the happiest day of your life. The very first thing to do is to make sure this is the right step for you. Ideally, you will have given your relationship a great deal of thought over the past years or months and know that marriage is what you want. And when you know, you know, as they say.
Engagement Ring Shopping
When you get engaged, you get an engagement ring. If your love didn’t slip an engagement ring on your finger when he/she proposed then it’s time to hit the jewellers and go ring shopping. If they also fancy wearing an engagement ring, then you could go shopping for matching rings or even have bespoke engagement rings made. If you’re not sure what kind of engagement ring you want or whether to buy matching engagement and wedding rings then read our advice on choosing the right wedding or engagement ring.
Choosing Your Bridal Party
When you get engaged, it’s time to decide who you want to make up your bridal party – the best man, chief bridesmaid (otherwise known as the matron of honour if married, or the maid of honour if she is unmarried), bridesmaids and ushers. You should consider whether you want to have any flower girls or page boys, and if there are small children in your family it can be an easy choice.
If you’re a little more alternative, then you could appoint a best woman in place of (or as well as) a best man. You might choose to have a man of honour or bridesmen, in place of, or alongside, bridesmaids. Your ushers don’t have to all be male either, you could have female ushers if you want to. You might prefer to follow tradition, but it’s your wedding and these choices are up to you.
Bridal Party Proposals
It’s an honour to be asked to be a bridesmaid or best man. While the groom may prefer to ask his best man casually, brides-to-be are coming up with lovely ways to ask their bridesmaids, with pretty gift box proposals like this one.
Throwing an Engagement Party
When you get engaged, you throw an engagement party, if you want to. You don’t have to but many newly engaged couples find it’s a great way to get their friends and family to meet before the big day. If you love to throw a big bash, you’ll need to think about the usual: the venue, decor, food and drink, invitations and entertainment. You might also want to have a cake made and book a photographer for the party. It’s not every day you get engaged after all! If you are not into big parties, a small get-together at a restaurant or even at your place will be lovely and memorable, and you can make it very special by picking a theme or some glittering decor for the tables and the room. It’s also a great excuse for a special new engagement party dress!
Tip: Many photographers offer a complimentary engagement photoshoot when you book them for your wedding. It’s a good opportunity to test the photographer you are considering hiring for your wedding. Have them photograph your party, and keep those memories forever too.
Planning Your Wedding
So you’ve got the ring, you’ve thrown the party, it’s now time to name the date and actually start planning your wedding. You’ll probably find it useful looking online and in magazines for inspiration, help or advice along the way.
Once you’ve set the date and agreed a budget you can book your wedding venue. You should consider what type of marriage ceremony is right for you, whether you’d like to have a religious wedding in a church or a civil wedding at a register office, in a local licensed hotel or in another licensed wedding venue. It’s a good idea to take out wedding insurance at this time as it’s a small price to pay for peace of mind should anything not go quite to plan.
The next important booking to make is your photographer. After that, the next steps are to decide on the type of invitations and matching stationery you would like, whether you intend to get creative and make your own or have personalised invitations printed for you, before you go in search of the wedding dress of your dreams. Then you’ll need to book your cake, entertainment and have fun finding your all-important venue décor and table decorations.
Planning your wedding is lots of fun, and with a little help and inspiration you’ll have the wedding of your dreams, just the way you want it.