Well, it’s official. I think I’ve tried on nearly every wedding dress there is. On Saturday Mum and I trundled up to North London to see a designer I’d spotted on my very first visit to Confetti ‐ since then, I’ve always referred back to his dresses. They were lovely but not quite right so my current thinking is to have it made and take all the elements of different dresses I’ve seen and liked to get the perfect one. I’m trying one more shop with my sister and then I’ll make the final decision.
Before I’d decided on going down the designing and having it made myself route, I was starting to get worried as it’s only 8 months until the big day and shops keep telling me that I need to allow 6 to have it made. Whilst I’ve seen lots of dresses I would love to have, none were 100%. Now that I’m happy with having it made especially for me I keep finding myself doodling ‐ at the oddest times parts of what I want the dress to look like. At least I know this way it will be exactly what I want. During all this shopping I was also beginning to come to the conclusion that veils just don’t suit me. I could try on a stunning dress, then the assistant would put a veil on me and the whole thing looked dreadful. Finally, in one of the shops I’ve been to, I’ve found some beautiful veils. The shop will match the veil to any dress and design, so once that is sorted I’ll go there.
RT spoke to the band the other day, they are uncomfortable with doing both the after dinner music and the music for pre‐dinner drinks which we wanted to be Jazz. They don’t think in the time they’ll be able to get it right ‐ which is fine, they’re still doing after dinner (the music will be like at the engagement party which was great) and for before dinner we’ll find something else. We’re going to have a look around this week and make some calls, though I don’t think it’ll be a problem.
Apart from that, my biggest dilemma at the moment is what colour to have the flowers. I just can’t decide and every time I think I’ve cracked it I see another picture that changes my mind. I’ve spoken to Rachel the florist we’ll be using and she seems fairly relaxed, so I’ll see how I feel nearer the time. I think that most people match their bridesmaid’s dress to the flowers but as my sister, (who is my maid of honour) is pregnant and not due until February, we can’t have them made until then ‐ so there’s no hurry there. Let’s just hope she gets her figure back in time. As she said though, there’s no bigger incentive to loose weight than all those people looking at you! Talking of which, my gym regime is going well. I’ve found that having a personal trainer forces me to go, and when I’m actually there I work much harder than I would on my own ‐ though I can’t honestly say I enjoy it ‐ I just hope all this effort is worthwhile!
RT, Mum and I are all agreed on the invitations, so we’ll go ahead and order over the next couple of weeks. I know that we’re a little bit early with that but the friend of mine who has just got married said that you might as well do everything as early as possible, as it will take away the pressure nearer the time. We were out with her and her new husband on Saturday night and I think they are both really struggling with post‐wedding blues. I can understand it. Like she did, I’m spending so much time and effort making sure that every last detail is perfect, that it will seem peculiar when I don’t have to think like this anymore ‐ no more sleepless nights thinking about menus!
Oh well I’ve got 8 months of enjoyment left and I intend to make the most of it!