Mariah Carey’s doing it, Heidi Klum does it every year, and more and more people are planning it for a special anniversary, a milestone date, or, hey, just for the fun of it.
What am I talking about? It’s a touchy subject for some, but renewing your wedding vows is becoming a popular move for those of us ( like me) who think getting married is so much fun, it’s a shame to do it only once!
Unheard of only a few years ago, the rise of celebs who still want to be married to the same person, but who want to re-live the experience of getting wed, means mere mortals like you and me are getting in on the act, too.
Renewing your vows means you can do something private, personal and relaxed, that really suits you. It can be a way to re-confirm your love for each other, perhaps after a difficult time when your relationship has been under pressure, or a way to celebrate your love at a certain anniversary. It has no bearing in law, and you can do it however you please, inviting friends and family to share in the fun, or simply keeping it between yourselves.
I have friends who did it because they wanted to involve their children, others who felt they didn’t get the day they wanted the first time around, and others that are doing it as part of an anniversary celebration. Often, couples combine it with a holiday, and I have friends planning an Elvis style extravaganza in Las Vegas, others who are doing it in their back garden, and others who are taking the plunge on an exotic beach.
It’s obviously much cheaper than the “real thing” and what you do is up to you. You can either book a religious minister to offer a blessing, or a non – denominational official to read some promises and vows. Hotels abroad will often arrange this for you, and you can choose from a menu of options including flowers, bridal arches, photography and refreshments.
You can choose to wear your wedding dress again ( providing it still fits!) or splash out on a new frock and persuade your husband into a white linen suit, an Elvis outfit, shorts and a shirt, or whatever makes you both happy.
My friend Carol recently renewed her vows on a beach in Malaysia, where she paddled in the warm sea in her original Jenny Packham gown (“Who cares,” she mused, “I probably won’t wear it again… though I loved it so much that you never know”), drinking chilled champagne while the sun set and a photographer snapped away. Her and her husband now have memories of a fabulous, romantic time that has brought them closer together and given them a whole new set of photos to show off to friends! They took Confetti petals and sprinkled them on their bed and balcony, had the hotel arrange a simple bouquet, and took easy to pack disposable cameras so they had their own memories of the big day – second time around.
Tell us about your own plans or experiences or what you think of renewals in the confetti forums– a great idea or an unnecessary luxury?