We are getting married in November this year and I have just started to look into the more detailed parts of the wedding. Between me and my partner, we have 6 people who have passed away who we would of loved to have been there on our big day, and wanted some way of incorporating them into it somehow as a remembrance to them and to show everyone they are in our thoughts. Has anyone got any ideas of how we could do that, or has anyone been stuck in a similar situation what did you end up doing? Thank you in advance!
My Mum unexpectedly passed away 8 months before our wedding. I had an A4 photo of her in her wedding dress in a frame (was the only good photo of her as she hated having her photo taken) that I could hold so that she was included in our photos, had photos taken at her graveside, poured a small bottle of her favourite wine on her as a toast, and then her photo was placed on the same table as our wedding cake for the reception. She was the only person that we done that for.
Kelly Marie Dixon
I'm a florist and have done an absent table at the side of the room with a spray of flowers with framed photos around it, it was a really nice touch. Afterwards they put the spray on the mothers grave.
Kaye Alexandra Brailsford
I have a memorial tree, sprayed white and pictures of our loved ones hanging from it , with white lights drped aroumd the bottom and a quote in a frame that says "the ones that love us never really leave us". I also have a memory charm for my uncle who passed away in November on my bouquet
We got married last weekend and I in particular have lost a lot of family and friends over the years. I took small bouquets down to the crematorium for my Mum and Dad, Nan and Gr Aunt on my way to the ceremony as I wanted them to be part of my day and for them to see me in my dress. It was very emotional but I'm so glad I did it. My kids and my Uncle came with me. It was very special. I didn't want however the day to be depressing, so we kept everything else quite subtle. I invited my brother to raise a toast to absent family and friends and we had a picture frame with a big jug of flowers and the following wording: "In honour of those watching from Heaven and the Summerlands, We love you always" It went down very well, enough for people to know they were loved and missed without seeming overly macabre on what was a day of celebration.
I lost my nan and my grandma this year and my real dad passed away when my mum was pregnant with me (I'm very lucky to have another dad though ?) so to incorporate all 3 I am wearing my mums locket she got on her 18th birthday (my something old) and it will have a picture of my real dad in it, that way I can have both my dads walking me down the isle. I also have a tiny little copper double sided photo frame, of which I will have a photo of both nans in it either side, and it is going to be tied into my bouquet. With 6 people maybe have some photos up of you and them to remember them by xx
Perhaps, where you have your box for cards or book to sign in, you could put a few photographs up. Would also be nice to mention them in your speech by saying 'there are a few people who cannot be here who are in our thoughts and hearts today...etc'. I also am in the same position and i have a bracelet with charms inside from Seasons Wholesale. The charms I have chosen are the letters of their first names which personally i think is a really lovely tribute. Good luck and remember that they are with you in spirit xxxxxx
I found an old suitcase in a junk shop, painted it up in our colour scheme, drilled holes in the sides and added twine rows. Used these as little 'washing lines' to peg photos of all our loved ones we had lost. We also had a little verse in it which read ' forever in our thought, you have never gone away. We just wish you could be here, to share our special day ' it was on its own table and every single one of our guest commented on it. It also brought many tears. My husband also put it in his speech which we toasted too xx
I had a table set up at the side when we were having our meal, it had framed photos of all our loved ones who are no longer with us on it and a box frame in the middle that said 'we know you would be here today if heaven wasn't so far away' , my bridesmaids placed their bouquets on the table too which was a nice touch, I would add a photo to the thread but it won't allow it! Feel free to PM me and I'll send you a pic xxx
We had lots of tributes to our grandparents...we had a saxophone player for the ceremony who played my grandfathers song for me to walk down the aisle to and my husbands grandparents song to walk back down too. I had a charm with my nans photo hanging on my bouquet. We had a memorial table with the photos of them on and sign saying 'we know you would be here today if heaven wasn't so far away'. And also had a personalised candle made that we lite during the speeches when paid tribute to them. X
My husbands nan who was a big part of his life passed away unexpectedly a month before our wedding so we still had her seat made up for the day and we placed her name card and favour still with the handbag she was going to use on her seat. For all the other members we had a table with photos on of their important days. The day after the wedding we put the flowers that we had which were on top of the centrepieces on their gravestones. We also had the charity favours too for the charities that were close to our nans illnesses x
We had a photo board next to the table plan so that as our guests checked that for their seats they could see all of the photos too. My husband also did a toast to the family members that we had lost at the end of his speech. After the wedding I then took our top table flowers over to my nans grave