Hi, I've been engaged to my fiancé for almost 2 years. Got engaged 3 months into the relationship (known each other since school) He always joked about asking me and I brushed it off until he actually did ask - on my son's birthday! I was obviously over the moon. It was love at first sight from our first date. (Lost touch for a couple of years). The thing that's bugging me is the ring... I thought I could learn to love it as my fiancé chose it and they aren't cheap and I don't want to sound ungrateful or anything but it really isn't what I envisioned what my ring would be like when the time came to be asked that question, in fact I think I only wear it because I don't want to hurt his feelings - I sound horrible I know I do. I like the band and the fact it's white gold but that's it. Everything else - not so much. This is so I can blurt it out more than anything. I know engagement rings cost a lot of money generally but I kind of wish he had asked me beforehand what kind of style I liked. It's too late to change it at the shop - been on my finger 2 years. Don't get married until 2018. Has anyone ever upgraded their ring before their big day? Please don't judge and please don't be too negative towards me, I'm giving myself a hard time as it is. Just need advice and some kind words. Thank you.
Paula Dennis - You can buy bridal sets which match so when you are looking at wedding rings maybe say they don't sit well etc etc. That way you don't have to hurt his feeling and can maybe still wear the other ring on your other hand?
Alison Henderson - When my husband and I got married, in a hurry, there wasn't any money for the lovely ring I had pointed out in the jeweller's window. My man's previous girlfriend had returned the ring he gave when they split. He worried that my finger wearing only a wedding band would cause me embarrassment, attitudes were different in those days, and suggested that I wear the ex's ring until such time as he could buy me my own choice. He put it on my finger with love and concern for my feelings. On our thirtieth wedding anniversary he presented me with the beautiful ring I had chosen, he had remembered although I had long since forgotten! My old ring is unlike anything I would have chosen and probably not worth anything but it represents all the years and love we shared, we never had much money but we were so rich! I lost my dear husband nearly three years ago and I am still wearing the engagement ring he gave me to spare my blushes fifty years ago. X
Lauren Jones - Have you spoken to your man about this? If he loves you and you approach it delicately, I'm sure he will understand. The fact that you've been wearing it for two years so as not to hurt his feelings speaks volumes - it's obvious that he means the world to you. I would definitely broach the subject with him. And don't beat yourself up too much, we can't help our taste in jewellery! xx
Becky Crump - I have same problem I really am not a lover of my engagement ring but wear it because it's what my husband chose but I slipped it in conversation once that me personally choosing a ring would have chosen a different style and we laughed about it a little and as we are both mid 30s and the diamond anniversary is 60 years which to be honest we will be way too old to worry he has said for our 1st anniversary he will buy me a new ring but I'll still keep the one he got me x
Shelley Harlin - I've been engaged now for four years we get married next year but after two years my ring had lost its shine and the stone was really loose and I mentioned it to my fiancé and he baught me a new really nice one for my birthday. I would never get rid of my first one as it's the one he proved with but it's safe and sound in my jewellery box but I don't think it would hurt to mention it to him and get a new one :) x
Chloé Lindsay - If wedding bands dont look right with it then u can use that as a reason to buy a bridal set. My engagement ring is shaped and was too hard to buy a band to fit it nicely so i have a new set when i get married on Sunday!!!
Kathy Jordan-Wright - I had an engagement ring, which I liked initially but then kept having accidents with it. It had to be repaired a couple of times which cost a fortune plus always caught it on myself causing injuries. Then when we were looking for wedding rings I asked if i could get a different on that matched. So that's what we did.
they are beautiful rings and fit perfectly. Not going to say anything about accidents though!! X
Aoife Cleere - Used to design wedding ring sets.. and you wouldn't believe the amount of women who bring in their ring to use the gold and diamonds from but to have their ring completely remodelled .. so don't feel bad at all!
Kimberleigh Richardson-French - I hardly wear my engagement ring now i am married. I actually love it. My partner put a lot of thought into the design and its beautiful... but ... being in a fairly manual job, i kept catching it. So it stays in its box, safely hidden and i only wear it going out etc.
We got me a decorative wedding band instead.
Georgia Fuller - I think you should talk to him- tell him how you feel. You're getting married so you can talk to him about anything. He'll either understand (fab!) or get upset- why don't you try and get the same ring changed if you can to make it more you, but it's still the same one he chose but personalised!
Emily Best - I did the same. I love my original engagement ring as it is the ring my fiancé proposed with but I wouldn't have chosen it myself. I talked to him about it and he wanted me to be happy so I have a new set for my upcoming wedding and I'm going to wear my original on my other hand ? xxx
Melanie Smith - I had an engagement ring I didn't like so when I got married I actually got a platinum wedding band with diamonds around it a bit like an eternity ring and just wore that.
Lucy Speed - You can get them changed so you get to keep "the ring" in a way but also get something you love! You can keep the stone/s or put new stones in and change the setting and everything. If you like the band metal (the white gold) but not the stones then keep the white gold and switch out the stones!
Zoe Jones - I'm getting a bridal set because mine is an awkward shape to match. I don't dislike mine at all but I wanted them to sit well and my h2b doesn't mind at all
Emma Cumberland - Bless you ? tricky one. Could you perhaps get a wedding band with some sparkle in it and then just wear that one??? X
Charlotte Emily - You could just buy a really lovely wedding band and only wear that? P.s you aren't horrible! X
Leanne Harris - My friend got engaged after 6 weeks and hated her engagement ring so she got a new one to match her wedding ring.
Jessica Appleby - If it's just a band why don't you use that as your wedding band and buy another ring that you like for your engagement ring?
Amanda Hendry - As long as you got a ring. On the big day ur not meant to wear ur ring anyway
Lyndsey Brown - Have you looked at having the ring re-designed? They take your diamonds etc and the metal and reshape/ restyle into a new ring. So the setting and stuff changes. I didn't do it with mine but a friend of mine did and her new ring was beautiful. (As was her previous one but just not her style) xx