My best friend is a man and he's always said he didn't want to be a male bridesmaid or bridesman. I guess a bloke thing. And I totally get it. However I just cannot get married without him by my side hes been my best friend since school. I don't want him to be a usher as that just isn't good enough of a role in my eyes. I just don't know what to do shall I just tell him its tough he's my man of honour or just leave it. I do think he would be gutted if he wasn't part of my big day. Please help any suggestions or advice. Thank you.
Amy Palmer - I was recently Best Woman for my brother. I wore the same dress as the bridesmaids but in navy blue to match the ushers who were in navy blue suits.
Have a Best Man!! He could wear the same as the ushers but have a tie that matches the colour of the bridesmaids dresses.
You make the rules at your wedding!
Nat Bib - I had exactly the same thing for my wedding. My best friend was my man of honour (and we had a thank you card and gift etc... Made with this on) he wore exactly the same as my husbands best man and we all went together to get their suits which made my friend and the best man more at ease as they didn't know each other. He isn't fond of public speaking but he did give a super quick speech at the beginning of the evening but the help he was all before that was incredible.
In all fairness I'm so glad I didn't have a maid of honour... There was no competitiveness, no nastiness and complete honesty from him on everything from my dress, to cars to colours. He was so honoured to be such an important part of my special day and I know had he not had that role I would have regretted it and I'm sure he would have felt more than a little hurt.
Hope that helps!! Xx
Natasha Harmer - Well why not suggest he be man of honour and see what he says? He could take a similar role as an usher but then sit at the top table where the moh would usually be? You don't know if you don't ask :) he doesn't need to walk down the aisle with a bouquet xD if you're having a bridesmaid how about he walks with her down the aisle? I'm having a bridesman and I think I'm going to ask him to walk down the aisle with one of my bridesmaids :)
Carina Jagatia - Being an usher is equally important than any other role. They have the responsibility of meeting and greeting the guests and showing them to their seats and is applicable handing out order of service booklets. As this man means so much to you why not have him as usher, the first point of contact for your guests? You know him so well and really want him a part of your day, and you obviously trust him unconditionally so why not have him as usher? He will probably appreciate and feel more comfortable/confident in that role more than what you originally wanted him to be xxx
Emma-Leigh Robins - My best male friend isn't an honorary bridesmaid or anything so instead I'm
Going to pick out his suit with him, I've ordered him a buttonhole, he's doing a reading and also he's coming to have breakfast with me and get ready together at the wedding venue on the day. I think I'm gonna get him to walk my mum in then into the ceremony room X
Chelsea Lawrance - My best friend (male) is my witness and will be wearing the same suits as my brothers (groom, best man and groom's brother will be in tops and tails with cravats, our dads, my brothers and friend in question will be in matching suits with ties). That way he's still very much a big part of our day but he isn't a bridesman lol
Carla Green - Ask if he'll be within your wedding party, same colour suit as the men but colour tie as maids. And gave him do a poem or verse .. keeps him involved and close, without giving him a title x
Sophie Dancey - Ask him to be an usher and give him a special role like a reading or witness, that way he is also part of the wedding party x
Anna Mayer My Bestie was my Best Man - That was his title, end of! There was no way I was getting married without him being part of the main event. I had a Maid of honour (My female bestie) and it all just worked out.
Isla Elrick - I'd suggest it to him that you want him there beside you on your big day, there are so many blended bridal parties now a days no one bats an eyelid! ? if he really feels uncomfortable ask him to do a reading at the ceremony or be your witness.
Emma Hall - I was in the same situation... asked him to be usher but then just he's a combination of usher/bridesman. He was completely fine with that. As long as I don't write bridesman on anything. At the end of the day you and him will both know the importance of him being there with you it doesn't necessarily need a label ?
Amy Flaherty - My twin brother was my chief bridesmaid walked down the aisle first and loved every minute I wouldn't have done it without him and it was even more special to have up there on the top table with me
Sammy Keating - Ask him what he wants his role to be!! That way he'll know you want to include him without you forcing him into anything or leaving him out