Hi. I have recently fallen out with my family regarding my fiance who may I add is my soulmate, my best friend and the love of my life. He has been my rock over what has been a very hard couple of years but has kept me going and laughing. However my family have always made him feel awkward and as if he is not important no matter how hard he has tried. They just can't see how happy he makes me and my little girl. It all came to a head last week and erupted into a row and now I feel like I don't want them at our wedding next year if they don't believe in us then why should they be there. Debating weather to cancel our plans here to then go away and get married instead?
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I think you need to find out why they make him feel that way. Has he told you this is how he feels, or have you watched whats going on and assumed that's how he feels?
Have you ever asked your family why they treat him the way they do? Did they know him before you did, do they have a past history with him? Has he done something for which you forgave him, but they can't forgive him? In my experience, these things always start somewhere and whether it is a big problem that might never be overcome, or something so trivial, you've forgotten about it, but it must have started somewhere. How close are you to your family? Would excluding them make your relationship difficult? Are your parents putting anything towards the wedding or are you paying for it on your own? I think that before you act in haste, you should try to get to the bottom of whats going on and try to sort it out. It might be that it cannot be sorted out, but at least you'll have tried.