Help! My wedding is in August. My father and I just caught my mother cheating on him last month. I don't want her near my wedding and my fiancé and I are considering canceling everything and eloping. I really need advice and guidance in this situation.
Kira Brown Lilly - Don't cancel your wedding and honestly, I think one day you will regret not inviting her as well. I know tensions are high now because yall just found out but over time it will get better. You only have 1 mother and sometimes no matter how much they screw up you have to forgive. If you invite her and she doesn't come that is on her but at least you can lay your head down at night and not have regrets. Just my opinion!
Carolina Ettinger - Sweetie make yourself a new happy memory with your father it is his dream to walk you down the aisle trust me just dont invite her and make sure she knows she isn't welcome near the event just enjoy it with others and your family don't elope you might regret it later
Hannah Elizabeth Taylor - Don't cancel your wedding because of her terrible decisions. I just wouldn't include her or invite her. Unless you'd rather elope, whatever will make you happy! :)
Angel Robles - If it was me, I would express to her how hurt you are and how this puts you in a really awkward position but I would still invite her. I understand that she made a very bad decision but she is still your mother! And I think in the long run when things have settled down and everyone has moved on from it, you may end up regretting not having her there.
Alexie Pertich - I am so sorry this happened. And it makes it so much worse that it's happening so close to your wedding. Emotions are so high right now. But first, take a deep breath. I agree with above that it is your dads dream to walk you down the isle. I know you are mad at her right now, and she hurt your family, but I would highly consider long term here. Things are going to be awkward and rough for a while, but hopefully she will try to mend her relationship with you in the long run. I see why you would want to cancel and just run from it all and not include her. But I think you guys had your heart set on the initial wedding and are now running on emotions. It's not going to be easy either way. I'm sorry this happened to your family.
Angie Renee Dirksen Mader-Deen - The wedding does not make the marriage. Eloping is way cheaper and would give you time and focus for your family situation. It would also protect your father from prying eyes and people who mean well asking questions they shouldn't.
Christine Dior Quinn - What happened between your mom and dad, is between them. You've spent all this money to have the perfect day for you and your fiance, don't throw that away just because your mom did a silly thing. Even though she cheated on your dad, she's still your mom and I'm sure she still loves you. She cheated on your dad, not you. However, it's your day so do what makes you happy. Just remember you only get one mom. So if you don't allow her there make sure it's a decision you can live with. Good luck
Amanda LeeAnn Peterson - Whichever is Less stressful for YOU! I wanted to eloped and gave into pressure to have a wedding, i still regret not eloping over 2 years later. If you had your heart set on having a wedding then have your wedding and have it the way you want to have it. Dont let her ruin your day. Invite her, take pictures with her even if you dont want them or dont want to display them you Might want them someday..
Isabelle Scanga Leo - There are two sides to every story. Tensions are high right now but I agree with everything Kira Brown Lilly said. She is still your mother and none of us is perfect. Things will settle down but for now, keep all this family drama to yourselves. Not everyone needs to be aware of what's going on. Sorry you are going through this.
Jordan Marie Hamilton - Dont cancel! Maybe if you have a friend in law enforcement they would be willing to man the doors and escort anyone who was not invited away from your special occasion !