My Fiancé has said that he doesn't want my mum to come with us when the men try on their suits and he just wants his Best Man and my Dad to go as they're the only ones who need to have suits fitted. He says that this part of organising the wedding is the only part that he can really have a say in and doesn't want my mum having a say and taking over with her opinions. She has helped us so much with organising the wedding and without her I don't know what I would have done. I understand where he's coming from but just wanted to know everyone else's views on this situation?
Laura Mills - I went with my partner and his father initially just to filter down to some possible options and ensure colours tied in. My mum will come next time and probably get it down to the final 2 or 3 options then I'll leave it to my fiance and his dad and best man.
Emma Cumberland - I think that's a reasonable request to be honest. My mum went with my dad for the measurement side of it but my hubby and dad went to pick the suits up by themselves (and involved having a cuppa and cake somewhere!!). Let the boys have their time together ☺
Jessica Frost - I would say he is right! To be honest....you shouldn't go either!! Let the men pick what they want for the day, it will be a nice surprise for you too!
Keely Pawlow - Absolutely think he's right to ask. Would you want his dad coming with you to dress fittings just because he'd helped a lot for example? Bit different but same sort of principle!x
Carole Robertson - Assuming they're going to a proper formal hire place? Then the staff there will be fully trained in fitting etc so there's absolutely no need for your mother to be there. Given the fact you are both old enough to get married then your fiancé is clearly old enough to dress himself without "mummy" fussing over him like a little toddler.
Daisy Alice Drew - I had absolutely no say whatsoever in the suits he went with his dad and brothers. I generally believe woman shouldn't have a say. They dont have a say in our dress was excited about seeing him in his suit as he was as seeing me in my dreasa
Jacqueline Lunn - It's great that your mum has been so helpful but she doesn't need to be involved in every aspect, especially what is basically the only aspect that only involves the groom. Look at it the other way around - how would you feel if he had insisted you take his mum dress shopping if you weren't comfortable with it?
Keighley Coates - I agree with your partner,there isn't really any need for your mum to be there when they get suits. It's usually just a man thing. He just wants something he can say that the men have done. It will be a nice surprise for her to see them on the day. Just like your dad when he sees your dress x
Melissa Jane Baldwin - I agree with your fiancé I haven't seen my HTBs suit nevermind my mum. He took himself and the other 6 people who are in suits to see them and get measured but he has made the decision by himself... it's his day too why should someone be able to influence what he should wear. He's a grown man so should be trusted to make the decision by himself. It will be a nice surprise for me in his suit xx
Nat Snook - That's completely understandable, the suits are the grooms thing just like the dress is the brides. Would you have taken him and his dad to try on dresses?! Give him some directions on colours and styles you like and then leave him to it!
Lauren Waddell - This happened with one of my h2bs groomsmen....his girlfriend wants to go kilt shopping with the boys....she never leaves his side to let him do anything and the other boys don't want to be trying kilts on infront of her... I said if she can't leave him for an hour or 2 to try a kilt on then he shouldn't be there it's sad but it's a guys thing they go do there thing as long as it's the right tartan they choose I don't care but this girl just needs to back off and let her man have a bit of guy time for once in his life....
Jackie KD Oliver - I dont see why it's necessary for your mum to go, even if she has helped out alot does she need to be involved in every detail? Its yours and your OHs day not hers, despite all the help.
Me and my OH have agreed on what style suits and I'll only go with them when my uncle (who's walking me down the isle) goes for a fitting as hes quite shy and reserved and a bit stubborn. But when him and his mates go thats their doing not mine and especially not my mums!
Leanne Johnston - I have to agree with your h2b. if your worried about offending her then why don't you two have a girlie day while they sort the suits. I went with my h2b to order his kilt and thats only because he decided to go and see about it while i was there but he and the best man went together for the rest.
Melissa Williamson - The only time I went was to help pick the style of jacket and waistcoat, after that the men went on their own for the fittings. It's the only part of the wedding the men actually get to do something on their own. In my opinion it should be men only, the men don't come dress shopping or to dress fittings so the same should apply for their suits with women, when it comes to the fittings that is.
Katherine Shuttleworth - Tbh with my future husband unfortunately his dad passed away many years ago.... and my sons it's probably not pratical to take them.... so I can imagine he will go on his own ... find what he likes.... come back .... Probably ask me what I think (Eg colours/style) then revisit with his best man and my dad....
And go with gut feeling of what he likes and feels comfortable in... which is fair enough
Although I have no family help on either side for my wedding no financial input either so we are free to do as we please. As it's our wedding
Tierney Green - I guess he didn't express it very well, but this is probably the only thing that is absolutely 100% his decision for the wedding and he doesn't want to offend your mum by ignoring her opinion or feel like he has to go with what she likes. My fiancé isn't letting me know what suits they're getting either - he says if he can't see my dress then I can't see his suit!
Maybe ask him to clarify and see if he doesn't like how much input your mum is having? To me it sounds like she's just trying to help and you really value her opinion, but maybe to him it feels more like she's imposing herself.
Totally see his point about the suits. Also, I love my h2b's mum; but I would rather have my eyebrows shaved for the wedding than have had her helping me pick my wedding dress!! Her style is very different to mine and she wants me to dress like her...I don't know if you feel the same, but if you do it might be helpful to say so to your fiancé so that he knows it's ok not to want your mum there.