Me and my h2b have been engaged for 2 years as we are in no real rush to get married. Several of our family members is adamant that we get married around friends and family, however me and my h2b would like to elope as we don't like a huge fuss or a lot of attention? We love our families but we really don't want a huge blow-out wedding with all eyes on us. We will of course have a small celebration party when we get home but it seems everyone is really unhappy with our idea. Has anyone had this problem and any advice on what to do without upsetting anyone? Thank you!
Natasha Harmer - Do what you want because you will regret caving into what other people want from you. It's natural for family, especially close family, to be a little disappointed but you've got to have what you want, someone will always be upset by your choice as you can't please everyone, so don't even try to :) maybe you could give just your immediate family (ie parents and siblings) the option to come with you wherever you elope to? It'd still be a small quiet affair but at least then your parents wouldn't miss seeing their daughter get married
Amy Mills - We were desperate to go abroad, but because of lots of people opposing it and causing issues we ended up getting married here with the full works and then going on our honeymoon and having a non legal wedding on the beach with flowers, photographer, registrar etc. While we had a lovely day, our wedding should have been on a beach, where we wanted it to be, and where it felt right. Do it, regardless of what other people think or say, it's your special time and don't forget that. Good Luck!
Kelly Swift - We upset a lot of people when we made the decision to go, just the two of us to get married. I suppose it's not a proper elopement because we had to plan so far in advance to have the day we both wanted. But we are having a party when we get home similar to a traditional wedding reception. At the end of the day how ever you do it someone won't like it. It's about you and your new husband and if your family and friends can't make peace with your choice, then honestly that's their problem it's not their wedding.
Rachael Simon Morris - It's your wedding, do what you're happy with. Run off to a foreign country without telling anyone, have a small intimate ceremony then come home and drop the bombshell. They may not be best pleased but they'll get over it.
Ruthy Gates - My husband and I went to Vegas to get married. Just the two of us because like you we didn't want all the attention. You can get the wedding live streamed so people at home can watch it. We didn't but have got a video that we are showing to people at our party. Everybody there will be seeing it for the first time together just like if we'd have had them there on the day. Do your wedding your way. We did and wouldn't change any part of it. Good luck with your wedding, however you decide to do it
Abigail Vincent - I wanted a small day of literally just us two and 2 witnesses whilst he wanted a bigger day to please his mum so we comprised.....and did the bigger day but with a pub reception so it could be "relaxed" With a week and a day to go we're absolutely dreading it ? Go with your gut instinct and what you want to do not what pleases everyone else. They're never happy anyway - always something else to do. You'll just end up stressed and regretting not doing what you want to do. Go for it!
Rackelle Rouni Green - Me and my h2b are marrying abroad in 6 weeks we are going away just us 2 the whole process has been so easy and simple and our whole wedding is all about us nobody else (completely selfish but it's been great not having to please or think about anyone) we are having a reception party 2 week after we return...also gives us something to look forward to during "wedding blues" oh and I get to wear my dress again