I need help /advice. I have asked my sister to be my Maid of honour. I need to give her name to the registrar. Recently she has been hitting the bottle and drinking heavily. What if she gets that drunk and doesn't make the wedding? I can't supervise her all day. Can someone stand in her place at last minute to sign out registrar? Starting to worry she will ruin my wedding or won't even get down the aisle without being drunk..
Should you not maybe be focusing on your sister and why shes drinking all the time than worrying about how that affects your wedding? Just saying you know she's obviously having a tough time maybe talk to her instead of worrying about yourself.
Maid of honour doesn't need to be a witness. Mine isn't as she's under 18. But I would talk to your sister and be there for her as she's clearly going through a tough time. Step out of the wedding for a moment and focus on her. X
Ok harsh truth time, your wedding is one day but your sister is, and has been, for life. You maybe need to look after her and her issues right now rather than focus on whether it'll ruin your day. Don't get me wrong I know your day should, and will be, amazing but don't let that be at the expense of looking after someone who needs it. I hope you can help her with whatever's going on and I hope your day is brilliant.
We spoke to preist as 1 of our witness mum was yerminally ill & we where worried they wouldnt make it on the day. He told us it wasnt an issue and could be changed. Speak to the person officiating and explain x
We had to change my husband's witness on the day as his best man was in hospital ! We just told the registrar when they checked final details before the ceremony and it was fine x
Dannie L Roberts
I had my SIL and my hubby's brother to sign the register neither were bridesmaid or best man. I chose them both as I wanted to involve people without upsetting anyone.
Daisy Alice Drew
Anyone can sign as a witness,it's just traditional that the best man and MOH do so. Maybe have a chat with your sister,find out why she's drinking so much?
We didn't need to give the names of our witnesses to the registrar until the day, and we never had to tell her who was in our wedding party
Ok so she could have said "im having some issues with my MOH that are making me question her commitment and wonder if she is even going to be there on the day. Can i have a stand in to sign out the registrar?" Question is there no PERSONAL information is stated therefore not inviting 'negative' comments. Yeah we don't know the background or what help she is or isn't giving her sister but it is therefore irrelevant to mention it in the first place. Seriously if i was talking like this i would want someone to call me out on it.
Even though she's maid of honour you could ask someone else to be your witness.
We had family memembers outwith the wedding party sign ours, it was nice to include them.
Myra Watson Paisley
There are several negative comments on this post & it is so disappointing. You do not know that this lady isn't helping her sister in private with the wider issues. She may not have included this as it is irrelevant to this group. The particular question she asks is wedding related & I'm sure all she is after is an answer to her question- not a barrage of judgement & assumptions that she is not also helping her sister.
You can give the registrar names on the day ?