I would like to ask: speeches before or after dinner?! I have heard before is good because it gets them over with so those giving them can enjoy their dinner - but also not great because guests may be hungry and want fed so not a great audience! Please help settle the debate ?
Lauren Hubbard - BEFORE! Got married 2weeks ago yesterday and ours were after! One of our best men wasn't able to eat properly because of the speeches!
Sarah Stoddart - We have five speeches as I'm doing one as bride and my group of friends are doing one too. All limited to ten mins max. We are sprinkling them between courses...FOB is between starter and main, best man between main and dessert, groom after dessert and me/the girls during cheese course
Ellice Kate Morton - After is tradition. My h2b is nervous but said he would rather have his meal and a few drinks to give him chance to relax a little bit and calm down from the adrenaline from the ceremony before giving his. So we're sticking to tradition and going after ?x
Becki Mogg - Personally, if you're paying a lot (average £75-£100 a head) you want to know that all of your guests are going to enjoy their meal and perhaps those who aren't so calm when doing speeches, may not be able to really savour their meal knowing that they have to stand up and talk afterwards. This is what we are doing...I will be speaking instead of my h2b and i know for sure i would rather do the speeches first so that i can really savour my meal :D Wishing you all the best for your big day. xx
Sian Bernard - We did ours after. It felt like a good way to close the meal and finish that bit of the day. We preferred it instead of guests finishing their desserts and disappearing here and there once they were done. Worked well for us. We kept all the speeches in total under 30 mins though (groom, father of the bride, best man) x
Beth Bee - We're doing before. H2B wants to relax and enjoy his meal afterwards and so does Best man so my dad has agreed to do his before too. We're having unlimited ice cream during the drinks reception so I'm sure our guests won't be starving! We're hoping to slip off after we've finished eating too to have some private time to ourselves x
Joanne Davies - We done ours before the meal, that way once the meal was over everyone could relax, alot of people went straight outside after the meal as the weather was excellent, it gave the waitresses time to get cleared up without interrupting us and the dj came in and got set up too xx
Jennifer Louise Stewart - We have decided to do ours before to allow those doing the speeches a chance to relax and enjoy their meal afterwards. Our wedding isn't until 2oclock though and speeches at a 4.30 so hopefully people won't be too hungry x
Fiona Tanner - Also depends what time you get married. We got married early. Did speeches first to get them done so my dad who was nervous could enjoy the meal/wine and the rest of the day. We still ate a reasonable time too. Another wedding i went to recently did them after the main course before pudding.
Hanh McKenna - Before. We were running an hour or so ahead of schedule. It goes very quickly so don't worry about your guests! They're probably looking forward to it too, have fun and enjoy the speeches ☺️! X
Natasha Harmer - We're probably doing before, or maybe between the starter and main course...only because we have something planned for after dessert which will only work if the speeches are out the way
Ashley Hobson - We did before as it gave the 3 making speeches a chance to get it over and done with so they could enjoy the meal. Plus it allowed some of the elderly folk to leave immediately after eating as required.
Lorna Rowley - We are having speeches before but we are also having canapés so the hungry guests will not be AS hungry. It's nice before as then everyone can relax. Maybe also give speeches a time limit so they can be written to a time slot rather than a novel
Rebecca Morgan - We're doing ours after the starters, which I think is common in America. It means the guests will have a bit of food in their bellies and the people doing the speeches can enjoy their main and deserts