I'm having a dilemma as I want to be the only guest to wear white/ivory seen as it's my big day and I've found out the groom's mother is wearing an ivory wedding like dress which I'm not happy about. How do I tell her not to wear it as I want to be the only one in white/ivory without coming across too rude? Many thanks xx
Suzanne Newbury - Without directing it at her say this to her... my friend showed me the dress she was going to wear to our wedding it's ivory ? I've told her no chance, I can't believe she thought it was ok, it's common curtesy not to wear white to a wedding, I'll be livid if anyone turns up thinking it's ok ... I think she might get the idea xxx
Kerry Louise Mellor - I genuinely don't understand this. Why would a bride be bothered what colour anyone else wears? It literally won't phase me one bit if someone turns up in white/ivory. At the end of the day if you're achieving the end result of marrying the love of your life then what does it matter?
Julia Mills - From the MIL's point of view.... I'm Amy's MIL (see above) and bought an ivory dress and coat without even thinking that it might cause a problem. I just knew I liked it! When it was pointed out to me that Amy would rather I didn't, I looked for advice on the internet. The bottom line was that, although the old rules about colours (no green because it's unlucky, no black because that's for funerals, no white because it's for the bride) no longer apply, the only important thing is that it's the bride's day and her wishes matter above everything else. I love my DIL and I wanted her to have the best day ever, so I bought another outfit.
It wasn't such a big deal - I think I looked great in that too!
Jessica Victoria - Surely everyone knows ivory or white is a no, no?! Can someone not suggest another dress and mention that it's unusual to wear a similar colour to the bride? x
Lauren Corser - I'm sorry, I don't get these comments saying you shouldn't be bothered etc. To wear white/ivory to someone else wedding is completely disrespectful. It shows how little she cares for you and you shouldn't have to accept that. Not even joking, anybody, family or not, who turns up to my wedding in white will be asked to leave.
Emma Roberts - Both my mum and my Step mum are wearing ivory and I think both their outfits look gorgeous!!! I've had a few guests ask which colours are off limits and the answer is none! I've said to wear whatever they feel comfortable in, if that's white so be it! I'm sure on the day you won't even care, it'll be the best day of your life because you're marrying the person you love!
Catherine Davies - I get it, and I would never turn up to anyone else's wedding in white/ivory. I've even gone against white dresses with coloured flowers on with the thought 'no it's still white' but I was in ivory on my wedding with a champagne underlay and my mum went for a mainly white but with navy dress. She looked lovely and no one noticed she wore white? If you can't get her to change her mind or your groom can't have a word then I wouldn't worry too much x
Amanda Hall - As much as I can understand why you're not happy I wouldn't worry about it too much. No-one will mistake her for you and everyone will know you're the bride. Plus on the day you'll barely even notice what anyone else is wearing. Ultimately, is it worth falling out with your new mother in law over? You could always suggest some nice coloured accessories she can wear to go with it to take away from it being an ivory dress. Hope you get it sorted x
Amy Mills - Don't worry - you're not the only one! My MIL did the same! I was upset and said I wasn't happy about it, and my MIL was great and purchased a new outfit, and it was in keeping with the colours of the wedding.
I believe that honesty is be best policy. Good Luck! X
Therese Coleman - I've no idea how ud approach that , without sounding like a spoilt brat ( no offence ) surely it's not that big a deal , I'd just be happy they turn up , some people don't have their in laws there to share their day . I wish my partners mum was here at mine & my own mum for that matter . Put things into perspective , all eyes will be on u , don't worry about what others are wearing .
Susie Bennett - I had a close friend ask if she was OK to wear a white dress,she showed me the one and it didn't look anything like a wedding dress. Others wore white based dresses and not one person took away from the fact I was the bride. It's easy to get hung up on a colour/dress amid all the stress but unless they have a huge gown and veil on no one will take away from you other than the groom x
Victoria Louise Guthrie - Buy her a dress to wear that way she will feel guilty about wearing the white dress or just be honest I have let everyone know know to wear any white like dresses and if hubby sees anyone in that colour to get rid of them before I walk down lol don't mind white mixed with other colours just not plain white x
Gill Payne - Does the groom have an auntie (sister of the mother) or is there someone who is a good friend of this woman, that you or the groom can talk to? If so ask her if she could possibly have a word with the mother that she really shouldn't be wearing an ivory, or white, wedding type dress, and that others could laugh at her etc.