So, in short I have a "friend" who I simply don't have the heart to tell them that I have no plans to invite to our wedding. Although we were once really close, we've simply drifted apart over time. Since I got engaged we've spoken very little, to the point where I assumed we weren't even friends anymore. I'm seeing them at a party next week and I know I'm going to be quizzed on where their invite is. How do I kindly tell them that there isn't one without coming across like I'm being terrible?
Natasha Harmer - Well you're making an issue that may not be an issue...you're assuming they'll ask where their invite is but you don't know they will. Just say "oh we're keeping it to just family and close friends sorry" or say you were limited on numbers and weren't able to invite them. Over thinking it won't help you
Rhiannon Watts - I'm in same predicament here Ive had a few friends that hasn't bothered for over 2 years. Thing I thought of was if you haven't bothered with me or made an effort then why should I pay to have you come to the wedding when there are people I bother with everyday that I would rather have there. If and that's a big if they ask just say well in all honesty you haven't been in my life the past how long and I feel like we've drifted apart. They shouldn't be assuming they got an invite anyway and if they haven't bothered why should they get an invite I know it sounds harsh but weddings are expensive events and some people don't realise it's not them whose paying it's you. Don't feel guilty about it. Weddings are stressful and sometimes issues like this make it even worse xx
Nicole Hunt - I really don't think they'd ask where their invite is because it's obvious they're not invited, just don't even bring up the wedding, if they bring it up just say that they are more than welcome to come to the evening do and after the party you probably won't hear from them again between then and wedding anyway so, job done.
Good luck! X
April Williams - That can be kind of tricky. This is a part of life. If she was getting married and she didn't have an invite for you would that bother you? Sometime just being straight forward is the best answer, I think, I would say if it were me, Hey, its been so long since we've spoken to each other that you didn't come to mind when the invitations were sent out. My budget is set and I have to stick to my budget. But, it is good seeing you. Then start asking questions about her. I'm sure there are things that she hasn't invited you to. Remember she was a close friend and not an enemy. Enjoy yourself and catch up. I'm sure you will have fun. Good luck.
Sarah Michalaky Michalak - I've had this experience, don't get married for another 18 months, slowly drifted apart buy now at the point, I dont really see her, barely talk or make conversation anymore, if she comments on something in Facebook I just like it and not make conversation. Basically the longer you go without having contact with that person, the better, I haven't told her she's not invited anymore but after a while, I no deep down and she knows deep down we don't talk anymore, Dont see one another so don't expect any invite from me. Best feeling in the world. I made a point not to have general contact. Hope that helps x
Rachael Simon Morris - Tell them it's just family. I had an annoying, rude work colleague who somehow convinced himself we were best friends despite never seeing him outside work. He asked if he was invited. So I said it's just family.
Daisy Alice Drew - We had people fb my other half asking where their invite was i told him to ignore it one person kept on asking and I told him just tell him it is limited space and if he keeps asking i will tell him why he isn't invited
Karen Dearing - Just tell them that it's close family and friends only. It's your wedding your way. Be honest with them, closed book immediate family and friends.
Kate Hague - Just tell them no invite simples not close you could always give the guilty evening invite that we have all done no likely no in vitey