I am writing to enquire about wedding gifts. I have read your useful page How to Ask For the Gift of Cash and was wondered if you thought it would be acceptable to ask guests to make bank transfers to an individual bank account? We would like to use the money to go and help a priest we know in Tanzania. I have looked at Trailfinders and other sites, but the fund become tied to the earmarked expenses (in our case we also need additional money for the mission as such). Both our parents are a bit more traditional and seem to think it’s not very customary to ask guests for money. Do you think we should forego the idea, or stick to it and have two links: one for the humanitarian mission and one for the trip?