I'm getting married for my 60th birthday so am not a young bride. We have 32 guests so only a small reception. We don't actually want an entertainer but would prefer some background music to chat to family and old friends. I have hearing problems and wear hearing aids so loud music is not appropriate. I think my daughter will be shocked if she knew I don't intend to have an entertainer. What do I say? She had the big white wedding and she expects me to want the same but my partner and I are much older.
Congratulations on your forthcoming wedding - what a way to celebrate your 60th birthday! Wedding reception entertainment comes in all sorts of forms and so you shouldn't feel you have to book a DJ or a live band to do it right. Some quiet background music will be enough for some atmosphere and allow you to hear your conversations, though if you feel you'd like to add a little something extra to the occasion, you could consider having a singer perform just two or three songs or have a harp player do a short set as your guests have their first reception drink before you sit down to eat. Alternatively you could book a comedian, a caricature artist, a magician or even just a fun celebrity lookalike! If you explain to your daughter just what you have said to me I'm sure she'll understand. It is your wedding, it is your choice. I hope it's wonderful. x