Unhelpful chief bridesmaid

I got engaged just before I was bridesmaid for my best friend, much to my surprise and huge excitement.   My wedding plans and ideas were put to one side until after her special day, to help support and take care of anything she needed. However a few weeks after her wedding day and a few months before my own wedding day is due I thought it’s time I got to work on getting my ideas into action.

Naturally as she is now to be my chief bridesmaid I want to include her in my planning for a wedding dress, bridesmaid fittings, venue and favours.  The problem is she seems to be either unimpressed with my ideas or comparing them with her own wedding. She is interrupting me when I speak with dressmakers, the venue manager or suppliers to talk about her wedding or ideas.  Suppliers have called me back to re-arrange appointments on my own so that it can be discussed again.

 

I’ve changed many original ideas I had because, as beautiful as her wedding was, I don’t want mine to be compared and thought of as ‘copied’

I know I  may sound petty and selfish and not appreciative of her help, but this is really starting to get me down so that I’m trying to avoid inviting her to meetings regarding the wedding.

I really don’t want to upset her by saying anything but she had my full support. I just feel that now it’s my time, and although her input is important,  it feels like she’s putting all her effort into telling everyone about her wedding and what she did rather than advise what needs to be done for mine.

Your advice would be much appreciated even if its to tell me to pull my head in and stop being over sensitive

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