Hi, I've just found out I'm pregnant - very early stages but due the day before we get married! Obviously I know that doesn't mean baby will be born on that exact day but I would be more happy moving the wedding until after baby is born / the year after. I don't want to rush into anything as want to ensure that everything is okay at my 12 week scan - which will not be for another 6-8 weeks but I wanted to find out from the venue what they could do. So, they have said they can move the date but we have got to pay £2,500 (our deposit again) as they are losing money out on the previous date we had. I have explained that they aren't losing out we are just moving our date and I'm happy to pay a good will gesture but £2,500 is not plausible for us. Can I have any advice at all as I'm getting really stressed out! Thank you.
Claire Harris - I had the exact same thing and when I told people I was pregnant they were happy to change the date. Twelve weeks is superstition and quite honestly it gets in the way, just tell people went you're moving.
Clare Lawrence - Have you explained why, they may be a little more understanding if you tell them why. If not then do you really want this venue for your special day if they can't be understanding on this occasion? Congratulations by the way!
Sharon Ann McGuire - Unfortunately all the venues we looked at had Ts & Cs that said the deposit was non refundable and non transferable which does seem unfair but it's standard practice. Whilst you are correct that they're not losing money because you are still having your wedding at a later date, they may have already refused business on your date because they had your booking and to try and get a new booking to replace yours in 8 months isn't easy, it could be that the only way they can do it will be to offer a "discount for late booking". So from thier point of view, they do stand to lose money. I would try speaking to them face to face and see if you can negotiate the fee down.
Tricia Penny - Why not go and meet the manager and ask, if they re-book they date, if they could transfer your deposit. They may not be contractually obliged but I have known this happen as a goodwill gesture. Obviously if the date isn't rebooked you would then forfeit your deposit. It seems harsh but that's why companies have T&Cs so everyone knows the rules from the outset.
Kathryn Anne Warrener - My friend found out she was expecting so they moved the date forward once they were given the all clear pregnancy wise. She didn't want her daughter to be born out of wed lock though. I was due to get married October last year but very surprisingly fell pregnant after being told that I wouldn't have any more children. Our baby boy was born in December and we have postponed the wedding until October next year. Only you know what you want hun but definitely look into your t&cs. Good luck and congratulations. I hope you're wedding is truly blessed whatever you do.
Jenna Hemphill - Your due date might end up being different they gave me an estimated date at my first appointment but when I went for my scan it was a few weeks later. I'd be like you though, like another poster said have you told them why you need to change it x
Amanda Wardle - Check your contract but it's quite possible that's in the t&c's - I think ours for moving or cancelling was deposit so many months before, 25% another time frame then 50% etc x
Josephine Bear - This is just madness. How can they suggest that they will lose money before they've even had a go at re-booking your date?
As some others have said, check the small print in any contract you signed and see what it says about moving the date. Also, try to see somebody in person to discuss this - it's quite easy to dismiss somebody in this manner when it's done on e-mail, but if you discuss it face to face, you might have more luck. If you asked to cancel your wedding for next week, they might have a point, but 8 or 9 months away is madness, it's not like they will have already purchased the food, or got staff warned to work...... it's 8 or 9 months away for goodness sake. How much do you want this venue? How prepared are you to walk away from a £2,500 deposit? How much are you prepared to fight them to not have to pay more money?
How bothered are you if it all goes a bit tits-up and you fall out with them completely, meaning you probably won't want to get married there anyway. Only you know the answers to these questions..... read your small print, see what you signed, it maybe that you can't do anything because you signed/agreed to paying £2,500 if you wanted to move the date. Good luck.
Claire Meneely - Check your contract. A lot stimulate the date is non transferable so in these cases they have every right to ask for a financial compensation of some sort as very few people book for 8 months in advance therefore they could potentially loose thousands by you changing your date. Could you go and physically speak to the venue they may be more accommodating face to face when they can go and speak to their manager and try to do a deal for you. Congratulations on your pregnancy x
Naomi Cartwright - Is there a contact they have given you regarding the t&c's of your booking? If not you have no legal obligation to pay again and tell them you are seeking legal advice, under the circumstances of you being in the early stages of pregnancy you are legally considered vulnerable so they will probably not want to go down that route. Xx