9 Things To Ask Your Chief Bridesmaid To Do

Planning a wedding is big job, and the bride needs all the help she can get. So, the chief bridesmaid is there to work with and support her right through the wedding planning to the wedding day itself. Here are 9 things to ask your chief bridesmaid to do.

Joy in January - Sarah and Simon Ivory and Gold Real Wedding Bride with Bridesmaid Pre-ceremony Above: Joy in January – Sarah and Simon’s Ivory and Gold Real Wedding by Evolve Photography


1) Make a List of Bridal Shops

Ask your chief bridesmaid to make a list of bridal shops and boutiques that you can visit together when it comes time to go dress shopping. This way, you have a starting point.

Bride getting ready | Confetti.co.ukAbove: Debora and James’s Destination Real Wedding in Portugal

2) Help with Wedding Decorations

Especially when it comes to decorating the venue for the ceremony and the reception, you’re going to need help with your decorations. Ask your chief bridesmaid—tell her what you want, and she’ll help your vision come alive. And her help will be especially invaluable for any DIY projects you have planned.

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A selection of vintage wedding decorations available from the Confetti shop.

Above, shop vintage with Confetti: Vintage Display Draws and Ornate Boxes (shown above with a Bell Shaped Glass Tealight Holder and Decorative Bird Metal Spool), our Decorative Vintage BoxesIron Taper Candle Holder, and DIY Vintage Drawer Decor. Complete the look with Ceramic BottlesBurlap FlowersTaper Candle HoldersGlass Globe Votive Holders with Lace Pattern

3) Aid with Personal Touches

Similarly, ask your chief bridesmaid to aid with adding your personal touches to the wedding day. For example, you may want to provide her with a track list that she can give to the DJ or band for the wedding reception music, or you may want to have specific photos taken by the photographer.

Unique Wedding Signs | Confetti.co.ukAbove: Natalie and Keith’s Peacock Themed Destination Wedding

4) Introduce the Photographer to Key Family Members

To make things more relaxed for the wedding photos, ask your chief bridesmaid to introduce your family and close friends to the photographer. This allows for a less formal atmosphere, and photos can be a lot more fun.

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Wedding photography by Clearvision Imagery Weddings.

5) Take Care of Your Belongings

Your wedding day will probably fly by, and it will be difficult to keep track of all of your belongings (especially if, for example, you change out of your wedding dress at the reception venue). So, request that your chief bridesmaid keeps an eye on your things so they aren’t forgotten.

Travel box by the Empty Box CompanyAbove, The Empty Box Company

6) Arrange Gifts for the In-Laws

It’s traditional to give wedding favours during weddings (though you don’t have to), and the key members of the wedding party usually get something extra-special. Ask your chief bridesmaid to help you in choosing gifts for your in-laws, and add a personal touch with an included little message.

Drinks and Accessories Gifts | Confetti.co.ukAbove, clockwise form the top: Old School Personalised Vintage Inspired Clear Glass Flask | Silver Plated Wedgwood Wine Bottle Stand | Personalised Pen and Box Set | Brushed Silver Pocket Watch

7) Communicate With Your Partner-To-Be

On the big day, many brides take to the tradition of not seeing their partner until the ceremony itself. So, you may want to ask your chief bridesmaid to act as a messenger between you and your partner on the day of the wedding, ferrying notes and maybe even small gifts. On the other hand, you could ask your chief bridesmaid to organise a “first look” between yourself and your partner.

Love Letter Wedding Union Ceremony | Confetti.co.ukAbove: Parisian Love Letter Large Paper Scroll Shapes with White Pearl Brad with Nickel Plating Finish and Paper Blooms | Square Tag | Glass Dip Pen Writing Set

8) Keep You Calm

Nerves and emotions will run high during both the wedding planning and on the big day itself. Ask your chief bridesmaid to keep you calm and happy and in high spirits. Ask her to have your favourite drink or snack on hand, or a favourite movie or piece for music.

Bride and chief bridesmaid | Confetti.co.ukAbove: Morgan and James’s Destination Wedding in Tuscany

9) Treat Herself

Your chief bridesmaid will be just as busy as you are in preparing for the big day. So make sure you thank her after the wedding, and ask her to treat herself!

Greek Wedding Venues | Confetti.co.ukAbove, clockwise from the top-left: Apollonion Resort and Spa | Astir Odysseus Kos Resort and Spa Rahoni Cronwell Park Hotel | Simply Mediterranean Weddings

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