Bride And Groom Exchange Vows

Your Wedding Vows

In order for a marriage to be fully legal, certain point must be met within the service. You can’t just say exactly what you want. So here are the things you should probably know if you’re planning on writing your own vows.

Bride And Groom Exchange Vows

The words you have to say

In order for a civil marriage to be legal, there some vows that are essential. These words must be said by both of you in your ceremony, but you will also usually be allowed to add your own choice of vows before or after the statutory ones.

 

In England and Wales the statutory declaration is:
“I do solemnly declare that I know not of any lawful impediment why I, __may not be joined in matrimony to __.”

It is followed by these contracting words:
“I call upon these persons here present to witness that I, __do take thee, __, to be my lawful wedded husband/wife.”

There are also two legal alternative declarations:
“I know of no legal reason why I, __, may not be joined in marriage to __.”
Or by replying “I am” to the question: “Are you, __ free lawfully to marry__?”

These are followed by the contract:
“I, __, take you,__ to be my wedded wife/husband.”
Or
“I, __ take thee, __ to be my wedded wife/husband.”

In Scotland the couple say:
“I solemnly declare that I know of no legal impediment why I, __, may not be joined in matrimony to__. I accept.”

In Northern Ireland the statutory declaration is:
“I know of no lawful impediment why I, __, may not be joined in matrimony to, __, to be my lawful wedded husband/wife.”

own wedding vows

Personalisation

Personalising your vows is especially relevant for couples choosing a civil ceremony or those who are not tying the knot for the first time. If you’re choosing a civil ceremony, personalised vows can be used to inject personality and a unique flavour into the wedding. If one or both of you are getting married for the second time, writing your own vows is a way to make the ceremony different and special.

If you’re getting married in a civil wedding ceremony, you may be allowed to include your own vows in addition to the statutory words that make your marriage legal. However, some registrars have fixed views about what they will and will not permit. If your registrar won’t allow you much freedom, you can ask to have another registrar appointed (from the same register office) who may be more flexible, but don’t leave it till the last minute. In all cases, your registrar has the final say.

If you’re looking for an even more personalised wedding ceremony in a civil venue or even in a beautiful garden or marquee, you could think about a humanist wedding. This is a non‐denominational celebration of a couple’s love for each other and the bride and groom can write, or have influence over every word of the ceremony. (You will also have to have a legally binding civil ceremony at the same time or earlier).

An official humanist celebrant will provide you with some examples of a standard ceremony and help you to decide which element your wish to include for your big day. You can then add or adapt words depending on what you want to say.

In the Confetti shop you’ll find lots of ideas and inspiration for everything from stationery to gifts–even alternative ceremony ideas! BelowLove Letter Ceremony Box Set

Love Letter Bride and Groom wedding gifts

Are you in need of some advice on writing your own wedding vows? If so, there are hundreds of our brides and brides-to-be in the Confetti forums who can offer help and advice!

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